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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 261872" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>House rules are house rules. One thing that kids are capable of learning REALLY fast (difficult children learn it just as fast) is that rules at one house can be very different to rules at another house. When grandma says, "He's not like that when I mind him," she could be right.</p><p></p><p>So if they do that at someone else's house - well, they are someone else's walls. Your walls are not their walls, your walls are a different colour and in a different place. They have no visual cue to say, "This is my wall, I have written on it before."</p><p></p><p>You need to make it VERY clear that this is not going to happen. If possible, get the child to remove the marker. If that means the child has to scrub and scrub and it doesn't come off - so be it. Tell the child that if she put the marker there, she has to take the marker off and without damaging the paintwork. You can even work alongside her, both of you, to show her that you are willing to support her. But she has the responsibility of fixing what she has messed up. </p><p></p><p>Because I've posted here, husband is likely to be along and he may have some suggestions for you, to try and remove even permanent marker. He's a genius with things like this. So, honey - any ideas?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 261872, member: 1991"] House rules are house rules. One thing that kids are capable of learning REALLY fast (difficult children learn it just as fast) is that rules at one house can be very different to rules at another house. When grandma says, "He's not like that when I mind him," she could be right. So if they do that at someone else's house - well, they are someone else's walls. Your walls are not their walls, your walls are a different colour and in a different place. They have no visual cue to say, "This is my wall, I have written on it before." You need to make it VERY clear that this is not going to happen. If possible, get the child to remove the marker. If that means the child has to scrub and scrub and it doesn't come off - so be it. Tell the child that if she put the marker there, she has to take the marker off and without damaging the paintwork. You can even work alongside her, both of you, to show her that you are willing to support her. But she has the responsibility of fixing what she has messed up. Because I've posted here, husband is likely to be along and he may have some suggestions for you, to try and remove even permanent marker. He's a genius with things like this. So, honey - any ideas? Marg [/QUOTE]
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