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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 171022" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I left the huddle. I finally realized that I didn't deserve what I was getting and actually stood up for myself. She started yelling, shoving, calling me names and I gave her a choice -- go to her room, go for a walk or something, be quiet or be prepared for me to call the police. It took two phone calls to the police with me explaining that the verbal abuse eventually became physical and I just was no longer willing to put up with it and the police telling her that the third call would guarantee a trip to the station and some time being spent in the holding cell until she calmed down and the abuse ended.</p><p> </p><p>I also quit doing anything for her. No rides to friends. No pretty new clothes. No cool CD. No special dinners. Heck, no dinners at all -- she could fix her own meal, she was old enough. No washing her clothes, etc. As I told her, she was not treating me with the basic respect a human deserved, let alone her mother. So, I was not going to do the things a mother did for her beloved child until that beloved child treated me a heck of a lot better. I never denied my love, I never said I didn't love her, I just demanded she treat me better.</p><p> </p><p>It took some time but it did work. If she stated getting mean, I would just simply remind her that it was her loss, not mine. That usually shut her up. If it didn't, my mothering did stop for at least the next day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 171022, member: 3626"] I left the huddle. I finally realized that I didn't deserve what I was getting and actually stood up for myself. She started yelling, shoving, calling me names and I gave her a choice -- go to her room, go for a walk or something, be quiet or be prepared for me to call the police. It took two phone calls to the police with me explaining that the verbal abuse eventually became physical and I just was no longer willing to put up with it and the police telling her that the third call would guarantee a trip to the station and some time being spent in the holding cell until she calmed down and the abuse ended. I also quit doing anything for her. No rides to friends. No pretty new clothes. No cool CD. No special dinners. Heck, no dinners at all -- she could fix her own meal, she was old enough. No washing her clothes, etc. As I told her, she was not treating me with the basic respect a human deserved, let alone her mother. So, I was not going to do the things a mother did for her beloved child until that beloved child treated me a heck of a lot better. I never denied my love, I never said I didn't love her, I just demanded she treat me better. It took some time but it did work. If she stated getting mean, I would just simply remind her that it was her loss, not mine. That usually shut her up. If it didn't, my mothering did stop for at least the next day. [/QUOTE]
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