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'Tis the Season difficult child Question for others with experience
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 569240" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Hi BKS, yes it is the season for sure. It's always a dilemma with our difficult child's and holidays. Two days can be a long time if you're uncomfortable the whole time. You've already done a very good job of setting your boundaries, so he likely knows what you expect, however, if it were me, I would make it clear that I love him and want him to be there, but it's a holiday and we are all expecting him to behave in a way that is respectful and meets the standards that the rest of the family adheres to. I would ask him if he thinks he can do that for two days? If he says he can, hold him to his word. If he hesitates and is resentful or angry to have to abide by your rules, then arrange a separate time to celebrate with him. There is no rule that says your whole family has to suffer because of one persons actions. Give him the option to tell you if he believes he can hold it together for the holiday and if not, then you know what to do. If he comes and drinks and ruins your experience, then you will know he cannot keep his word, even for two days and this will likely not be an issue again. I'm sorry you even have to think in this fashion, but I do too, as many of us do......(((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 569240, member: 13542"] Hi BKS, yes it is the season for sure. It's always a dilemma with our difficult child's and holidays. Two days can be a long time if you're uncomfortable the whole time. You've already done a very good job of setting your boundaries, so he likely knows what you expect, however, if it were me, I would make it clear that I love him and want him to be there, but it's a holiday and we are all expecting him to behave in a way that is respectful and meets the standards that the rest of the family adheres to. I would ask him if he thinks he can do that for two days? If he says he can, hold him to his word. If he hesitates and is resentful or angry to have to abide by your rules, then arrange a separate time to celebrate with him. There is no rule that says your whole family has to suffer because of one persons actions. Give him the option to tell you if he believes he can hold it together for the holiday and if not, then you know what to do. If he comes and drinks and ruins your experience, then you will know he cannot keep his word, even for two days and this will likely not be an issue again. I'm sorry you even have to think in this fashion, but I do too, as many of us do......(((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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