Technically we gave difficult child-DS a week more than we said we would... "Please email to let us know what you arrange for your abandoned items. We will discard/donate/otherwise utilize all items you have not made arrangements for that remain in our home thirty days from the date we send this email message. " Scavengers were at the curb this morning... they spent quite a while going through boxes and bags... eventually put it all in their vehicles and drove away. I'm the happy side of non-induced numb on this one. It doesn't feel like much to me... over all I feel like I accomplished something big. It is not as painful for me as I think it was for my husband. He's the one that wanted to wait another week. He woke up in the middle of the night with a stress headache. Every professional we've spoke to believes our adopted difficult child-s will "come around" and realize how wrong they have been ...eventually. Almost all of them have said it could take up to 20 years. I'm close to the one year anniversary of their collective "we're adults now, we don't have to take your BS" Reactive Attachment Disorder Melt Down. Meanwhile... I don't need to babysit their abandoned belongings.