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Today was hard for me, but maybe I make it hard on myself
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 639769" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Just wanted you to know I was here, too.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry this is happening. </p><p></p><p>It would comfort me, especially during the holidays or on birthdays and other special times when my son would not be there and I didn't know where or how he was, to light a white candle for him.</p><p></p><p>It was just my time to remember him and wish him well and hope that he would be with us the next time that particular holiday or birthday or whatever it was came around.</p><p></p><p>It gave me comfort, to do this.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, I would be so angry! </p><p></p><p>Or, scared.</p><p></p><p>Or ashamed.</p><p></p><p>And I would let myself have that part. And then, when I got over that and felt badly for my poor self again, I would somehow be more able to accept that it was what was.</p><p></p><p>The Serenity Prayer helped me, too.</p><p></p><p>You know it, right?</p><p></p><p>God, grant me the Serenity to accept those things I can not change,</p><p>The Courage to change the things I can,</p><p>And the Wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>To this day, I put those electric candles in the windows of our house at Christmas. The meaning behind it, for me, is that the light of those candles will show (initially, difficult child son) but now, all of us, husband and myself too, the way home.</p><p></p><p>Maybe something similar would help you, too?</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 639769, member: 17461"] Just wanted you to know I was here, too. I'm sorry this is happening. It would comfort me, especially during the holidays or on birthdays and other special times when my son would not be there and I didn't know where or how he was, to light a white candle for him. It was just my time to remember him and wish him well and hope that he would be with us the next time that particular holiday or birthday or whatever it was came around. It gave me comfort, to do this. Sometimes, I would be so angry! Or, scared. Or ashamed. And I would let myself have that part. And then, when I got over that and felt badly for my poor self again, I would somehow be more able to accept that it was what was. The Serenity Prayer helped me, too. You know it, right? God, grant me the Serenity to accept those things I can not change, The Courage to change the things I can, And the Wisdom to know the difference. To this day, I put those electric candles in the windows of our house at Christmas. The meaning behind it, for me, is that the light of those candles will show (initially, difficult child son) but now, all of us, husband and myself too, the way home. Maybe something similar would help you, too? Cedar [/QUOTE]
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