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<blockquote data-quote="WearyMom18" data-source="post: 654082" data-attributes="member: 18856"><p>I can relate to the locked doors, hiding wallets, keys, purses and taking anything of value with me to bed...pretty ridiculous when you stop and think about it. We are the adults, the parents, the providers, the homeowners, etc and we shouldn't have to live in our own homes with fear. Home is supposed to be the safe place that is our own little piece of the world where we sleep, live, eat and live our lives - it should be a sanctuary from the stresses of life and we should not have to resort to such extreme measures to keep it that way. I have done all kinds of things over the past 4 years with the intention of making it impossible for my daughter to steal from us or hurt us but all that did was limit our lives and make us miserable in our own home! If she wanted to get to something she did! She always found a way.</p><p></p><p>We have finally come to the realization that our home which is a huge part of our lives should be safe and comfortable, where we can enjoy the benefits of our hard work and enjoy one another. It should not and will not be a place that we walk in eggshells in and feel like a pressure cooker. My daughter, now 18, has created that feeling of stress and distrust and therefore, after repeated incidents, we cannot allow her to live here. That's what it has taken but for us to be able to leave pocket change on the counter, stop locking up every electronic device or anything of value in the safe at night, etc. Crazy! We were tolerating this in our home. </p><p></p><p>When she left this last time (it's been several times), we told her that she could no longer live with us. Not only because of all the things I have mentioned here but because the level of distrust with everything she said and did was so great and because we were all (including her) miserable. Misery, that was caused by her poor decisions and poor behavior.</p><p></p><p>It's the hardest thing I have done to date I think, telling my daughter she can no longer live with us but what choice do we have? This is a lesson she is having to learn - that Gee, I really pushed them to do this and now look at what it's doing to me! A lot of these Difficult Child's are just not going to take anyone's word for anything - they have to learn the hard way.</p><p></p><p>Actions speak louder than words - have him show you for a sustained period of time that his intentions are to turn things around and only then could you begin to let him re-earn your trust.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyMom18, post: 654082, member: 18856"] I can relate to the locked doors, hiding wallets, keys, purses and taking anything of value with me to bed...pretty ridiculous when you stop and think about it. We are the adults, the parents, the providers, the homeowners, etc and we shouldn't have to live in our own homes with fear. Home is supposed to be the safe place that is our own little piece of the world where we sleep, live, eat and live our lives - it should be a sanctuary from the stresses of life and we should not have to resort to such extreme measures to keep it that way. I have done all kinds of things over the past 4 years with the intention of making it impossible for my daughter to steal from us or hurt us but all that did was limit our lives and make us miserable in our own home! If she wanted to get to something she did! She always found a way. We have finally come to the realization that our home which is a huge part of our lives should be safe and comfortable, where we can enjoy the benefits of our hard work and enjoy one another. It should not and will not be a place that we walk in eggshells in and feel like a pressure cooker. My daughter, now 18, has created that feeling of stress and distrust and therefore, after repeated incidents, we cannot allow her to live here. That's what it has taken but for us to be able to leave pocket change on the counter, stop locking up every electronic device or anything of value in the safe at night, etc. Crazy! We were tolerating this in our home. When she left this last time (it's been several times), we told her that she could no longer live with us. Not only because of all the things I have mentioned here but because the level of distrust with everything she said and did was so great and because we were all (including her) miserable. Misery, that was caused by her poor decisions and poor behavior. It's the hardest thing I have done to date I think, telling my daughter she can no longer live with us but what choice do we have? This is a lesson she is having to learn - that Gee, I really pushed them to do this and now look at what it's doing to me! A lot of these Difficult Child's are just not going to take anyone's word for anything - they have to learn the hard way. Actions speak louder than words - have him show you for a sustained period of time that his intentions are to turn things around and only then could you begin to let him re-earn your trust. [/QUOTE]
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