We had a civil conversation where we talked about normal every day things. I asked him if he wanted to go out to dinner for his birthday. He sounded pleased and said he would like that very much.
Picked a different guy up for dinner though. He made us wait, not answering the phone, in front of the house for a while. I assumed he was running late and was probably in the shower considering he always has his phone attached to him and was not answering. Eventually the man who owns the house came outside and told us he was sitting outside on the back patio. He went to tell him we were there.
The ride to, the dinner, and the ride back was painful. He was disgruntled barely answered questions asked of him and basically acted like an overly hormonal teenaged girl you wish you would have left at home. Between the one word answers to questions he was attached to his phone rapidly texting someone the whole time. Through it all we managed to ignore the bad behavior. After we dropped him off and were heading down the road he called saying he left his wallet in the car.
We went back, I handed him his wallet, and got told that he knew he was not nice but it just bothered him so much that I’m unwilling to address our issue. He was speaking of me having him removed from my house by the police in January. I told him he was very rude and he needs to get help as in get back on his medication, I rolled up the window and left.
After that I got a voice message telling me that I am rude, disrespectful and immature. Projection much.
I just don’t know where to go to from here. One option would be to just cut him off completely and not even answer the phone anymore. Or I could tell him I’m not willing to speak to him until he goes back to the doctor and gets on medication but knowing him he would think going to the doctor and simply filling a script would entitle him to move back into my house and take over, yet another power struggle.
Sigh.
Picked a different guy up for dinner though. He made us wait, not answering the phone, in front of the house for a while. I assumed he was running late and was probably in the shower considering he always has his phone attached to him and was not answering. Eventually the man who owns the house came outside and told us he was sitting outside on the back patio. He went to tell him we were there.
The ride to, the dinner, and the ride back was painful. He was disgruntled barely answered questions asked of him and basically acted like an overly hormonal teenaged girl you wish you would have left at home. Between the one word answers to questions he was attached to his phone rapidly texting someone the whole time. Through it all we managed to ignore the bad behavior. After we dropped him off and were heading down the road he called saying he left his wallet in the car.
We went back, I handed him his wallet, and got told that he knew he was not nice but it just bothered him so much that I’m unwilling to address our issue. He was speaking of me having him removed from my house by the police in January. I told him he was very rude and he needs to get help as in get back on his medication, I rolled up the window and left.
After that I got a voice message telling me that I am rude, disrespectful and immature. Projection much.
I just don’t know where to go to from here. One option would be to just cut him off completely and not even answer the phone anymore. Or I could tell him I’m not willing to speak to him until he goes back to the doctor and gets on medication but knowing him he would think going to the doctor and simply filling a script would entitle him to move back into my house and take over, yet another power struggle.
Sigh.