Proudmama888
New Member
Hi,
I am the mother of a 16 year old girl who is a drug addict. I feel she is so obviously screaming out for help, but doesn't have the control over her addiction to take action. In recent years, she has been diagnosed with many different disorders: Borderline (BPD), Bipolar, PTSD, Anxieties, Depression. Before turning to drugs was self harming & suicidal. We have been to many counselors, many doctors, treatment centers for mental health and so on. She doesn't go to school, have a job, nothing....Recently she was given the choice to go to rehab, lasted a week. We did not allow her to come home after signing herself out. Since then she has been couch surfing, hooking up with 19 year man, lived on the streets & in a shelter. She was arrested last Friday for assault - fighting. We agreed to be her surety, brought her home only because the police assured us that if she breeched any of her conditions, they would come and pick her up. Well, of course she did, and when I called the police, she had a complete meltdown. We were told that if she breeched her conditions & we knew about it & did not report it, we could be charged. Well, needless to say, nothing happened. The police picked her up, told us we needed to step up as parents & took her to the hospital for assessment. She was released late last night back into our care. Since I brought her home, my husband is furious!! He didn't want to be her surety in the first place. I told him that she promises to go to treatment as soon as there is a bed available. I know we've all heard it before & as he pointed out, I know how pathetic that sounds. I truly do feel that somewhere in there is a little girl screaming for help. She could be fooling me, again. But, I am her mother!! If she can't depend on me, who can she depend on??
I don't know what advice I'm looking for... perhaps anyone who has been through something similar, can help, give advice, share their stories??
Thanks
I am the mother of a 16 year old girl who is a drug addict. I feel she is so obviously screaming out for help, but doesn't have the control over her addiction to take action. In recent years, she has been diagnosed with many different disorders: Borderline (BPD), Bipolar, PTSD, Anxieties, Depression. Before turning to drugs was self harming & suicidal. We have been to many counselors, many doctors, treatment centers for mental health and so on. She doesn't go to school, have a job, nothing....Recently she was given the choice to go to rehab, lasted a week. We did not allow her to come home after signing herself out. Since then she has been couch surfing, hooking up with 19 year man, lived on the streets & in a shelter. She was arrested last Friday for assault - fighting. We agreed to be her surety, brought her home only because the police assured us that if she breeched any of her conditions, they would come and pick her up. Well, of course she did, and when I called the police, she had a complete meltdown. We were told that if she breeched her conditions & we knew about it & did not report it, we could be charged. Well, needless to say, nothing happened. The police picked her up, told us we needed to step up as parents & took her to the hospital for assessment. She was released late last night back into our care. Since I brought her home, my husband is furious!! He didn't want to be her surety in the first place. I told him that she promises to go to treatment as soon as there is a bed available. I know we've all heard it before & as he pointed out, I know how pathetic that sounds. I truly do feel that somewhere in there is a little girl screaming for help. She could be fooling me, again. But, I am her mother!! If she can't depend on me, who can she depend on??
I don't know what advice I'm looking for... perhaps anyone who has been through something similar, can help, give advice, share their stories??
Thanks