Hi everyone! Haven't posted in awhile. I am very overwhelmed and not sure what do to. My 8 year old (ADHD, depression, sensory processing disorder (SPD) +ho knows what else) is on medication and has been getting better the past month or two, but the past couple of weeks things are going downhill. He is incredibly needy, angry, moody...he takes up a LOT of my time. My 2 year old spends at least 50% of his day crying and is angry as well. Think he will follow in his brother's footsteps. Now, there are good times and times where they are happy and a joy to be around. There are just so many not-so-good times that I am stressed out!
We have a big house that I can't keep up with (my 8 year old helps, but he ends up making more messes than he cleans up), we have a lot of pets that I can barely take care of, and I babysit and stay very busy during the day. There is certainly no time for me, and my anger and frustration is building. I have been losing my patience and getting very angry with my 8 year old-the other day I pushed him to the floor. Now, this was after 1 1/2 hours of bad attitude and not listening and all that ****. But-my frustration hit a boiling point and I pushed him to the floor. Today my frustration is at another boiling point and I grabbed him by the arm and was screaming at him. I know this isn't good-I know things have to change. Like this morning....I am in my pajamas trying to get the dogs in the house at 7:30 this morning because they are barking at a stray dog, my 8 year old and 2 year old have been fighting most of the morning, the house is trashed, and they both refuse to eat. The 2 year old threw his whole plate of eggs on the floor because he didn't want them and spent most of the morning crying. My 8 year old didn't want to eat anything at all and was getting crabbier by the minute...he was mean and very difficult to get along with. After some arguing and telling him he was going to be grounded, he finally said he would eat sausage and some cheese. Gave them to him, and he spit them out. I walked away to get dressed, and when I came back out, one of the cats was eating the sausage and cheese, and my 8 year old had hats, gloves and coats spread out everywhere and was trying to get himself and his 2 year old brother dressed to go outside. There was also pee on the bathroom floor mixed in with some crushed up cereal-lovely! My 8 year old still hadn't eaten, and I managed to get him to eat a few almonds on the way to church. This type of stuff happens every day, all day.
I have been reading a great book, I think it is called Little Sugar Addicts, and I definitely think our family could use some changes in our diet. I feel that I am addicted to sugar, and our overall diet could use improvement. Out of all of us, my 8 year old eats the best-he really does. So, that is on my mind as well. We see the psy. nurse practitioner tomorrow, and I don't know whether we should stick with my 8 year olds current medications (Adderall, Zoloft, Risperdal) or change them. I am just totally overwhelmed and spread thin, but am not looking for sympathy or anything like that. I want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation, and what you did to help yourself and your family. I need some changes!!
P.S. I have a wonderful husband who is a wonderful father. He works 2 jobs and is busy. He isn't a housework type, never has been. He does the outdoor stuff. And now that he is working 2 jobs I don't ask for much. But I told him today I need help, and he said he will do what he can to help me.
We have a big house that I can't keep up with (my 8 year old helps, but he ends up making more messes than he cleans up), we have a lot of pets that I can barely take care of, and I babysit and stay very busy during the day. There is certainly no time for me, and my anger and frustration is building. I have been losing my patience and getting very angry with my 8 year old-the other day I pushed him to the floor. Now, this was after 1 1/2 hours of bad attitude and not listening and all that ****. But-my frustration hit a boiling point and I pushed him to the floor. Today my frustration is at another boiling point and I grabbed him by the arm and was screaming at him. I know this isn't good-I know things have to change. Like this morning....I am in my pajamas trying to get the dogs in the house at 7:30 this morning because they are barking at a stray dog, my 8 year old and 2 year old have been fighting most of the morning, the house is trashed, and they both refuse to eat. The 2 year old threw his whole plate of eggs on the floor because he didn't want them and spent most of the morning crying. My 8 year old didn't want to eat anything at all and was getting crabbier by the minute...he was mean and very difficult to get along with. After some arguing and telling him he was going to be grounded, he finally said he would eat sausage and some cheese. Gave them to him, and he spit them out. I walked away to get dressed, and when I came back out, one of the cats was eating the sausage and cheese, and my 8 year old had hats, gloves and coats spread out everywhere and was trying to get himself and his 2 year old brother dressed to go outside. There was also pee on the bathroom floor mixed in with some crushed up cereal-lovely! My 8 year old still hadn't eaten, and I managed to get him to eat a few almonds on the way to church. This type of stuff happens every day, all day.
I have been reading a great book, I think it is called Little Sugar Addicts, and I definitely think our family could use some changes in our diet. I feel that I am addicted to sugar, and our overall diet could use improvement. Out of all of us, my 8 year old eats the best-he really does. So, that is on my mind as well. We see the psy. nurse practitioner tomorrow, and I don't know whether we should stick with my 8 year olds current medications (Adderall, Zoloft, Risperdal) or change them. I am just totally overwhelmed and spread thin, but am not looking for sympathy or anything like that. I want to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation, and what you did to help yourself and your family. I need some changes!!
P.S. I have a wonderful husband who is a wonderful father. He works 2 jobs and is busy. He isn't a housework type, never has been. He does the outdoor stuff. And now that he is working 2 jobs I don't ask for much. But I told him today I need help, and he said he will do what he can to help me.