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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 548062" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I noticed your name change right away but didn't want to say anything in case you were hiding. At fist I thought I was going crazy and went back to some of your earlier posts to make sure you were the same person. </p><p></p><p>When it was pretty clear that difficult child was moved out for good I cleaned out her room from all the junk, dirt, leftover drug stuff, clutter, etc. But I left a lot of her clothes and shoes and trinkets around. Then I took all the posters off the wall and threw/gave away a bunch of stuff I didn't want hanging around. That made me feel good to have the walls looking good again. Then I really went through all the clothes and got rid of all the stuff I knew she wouldn't wear or I didn't want her to have, you know the trashy stuff. I was on a roll and I patched all the holes and painted her room, just about 6 months ago. I bought a new comforter for the bed and put some serene pics on the wall and a comfy chair and the transformation is complete. It was a process and took about a year to complete but I did it in the stages that felt right to me. I hung onto the memories as long as I could and then finally put them al to rest, knowing she would never be back and I needed to start fresh.</p><p></p><p>The room is now a nice comfortable guest room and has been used several times and I feel good about it. I even go and sit in here at times and just think and I can do it without tears or panic.</p><p></p><p>As far as taking steps to feel better yourself I say go ahead and go all out. The two hour drive is a bit far and I'm not sure I could do that but I did join our ymca and have taken steps to take care of myself now. I have a whole new attitude about things and I know I deserve to feel good again and I'm determined to do that.</p><p></p><p>So whatever steps you take I applaud you, you are the most important person and you deserve this.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 548062, member: 59"] I noticed your name change right away but didn't want to say anything in case you were hiding. At fist I thought I was going crazy and went back to some of your earlier posts to make sure you were the same person. When it was pretty clear that difficult child was moved out for good I cleaned out her room from all the junk, dirt, leftover drug stuff, clutter, etc. But I left a lot of her clothes and shoes and trinkets around. Then I took all the posters off the wall and threw/gave away a bunch of stuff I didn't want hanging around. That made me feel good to have the walls looking good again. Then I really went through all the clothes and got rid of all the stuff I knew she wouldn't wear or I didn't want her to have, you know the trashy stuff. I was on a roll and I patched all the holes and painted her room, just about 6 months ago. I bought a new comforter for the bed and put some serene pics on the wall and a comfy chair and the transformation is complete. It was a process and took about a year to complete but I did it in the stages that felt right to me. I hung onto the memories as long as I could and then finally put them al to rest, knowing she would never be back and I needed to start fresh. The room is now a nice comfortable guest room and has been used several times and I feel good about it. I even go and sit in here at times and just think and I can do it without tears or panic. As far as taking steps to feel better yourself I say go ahead and go all out. The two hour drive is a bit far and I'm not sure I could do that but I did join our ymca and have taken steps to take care of myself now. I have a whole new attitude about things and I know I deserve to feel good again and I'm determined to do that. So whatever steps you take I applaud you, you are the most important person and you deserve this. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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