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Trying to keep 1st gr. son from alt. school (for 2nd time) - a mother's vent for help
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<blockquote data-quote="ImABzParent" data-source="post: 388496"><p>This whole ordeal with my son has taken a lot out of me this week. What I thought was exhaustion and some depression turned out to be illness, and I've been out of commission for 2 days.</p><p></p><p>Update on the situation: the school requested a "threat assessment" - which determined that he isn't a threat. However, my son has been in in-school suspension Tues-Fri, and will have to be there again on Monday. A meeting is scheduled for Monday, to discuss what plans they have for him. Something about a "graduated re-entry" into his class. </p><p></p><p>He had another incident on Tuesday. At the end of the day the substitute who was with him during the day brought him back to his classroom to give his teacher the work he had completed. He went to his desk and pulled out his baseball cards (The reward system his class uses.) and started to count them. The teacher asked him to put them away and difficult child ignored her. The sub went over and took them away, triggering a tantrum. Nothing was thrown, he just shoved his desk and crawled under a table. Since there wasn't an administrator on campus, I got called to his room to calm him down. </p><p></p><p>After it was all over, his teacher had a revelation but it wasn't the one I was hoping for. She feels that when he hears a "request" (I hear "command") he should snap to the appropriate response. She believes he is choosing to do what he wants, and should "fear" what will happen if he doesn't comply. She thinks he is a "strong-willed child" and he needs to learn to respect authority. She went on to say that she isn't going to take the time to go over and talk to him about why he is making the noises unless she is required to.</p><p></p><p>I'm flabbergasted that this is a woman who has taught for over 25 years! Isn't part of our job to help kids with their social/emotional learning along with the academics?!?!? I know that he doesn't do these things out of disrespect. And honestly, if I could have gotten him to "comply" with requests so easily none of us would be in this situation.</p><p></p><p>Right now, I plan to move forward with a SPED referal to assure that he gets the support he needs. I have the letter from the Dr. with his ADHD diagnosis, and I have my letter written.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ImABzParent, post: 388496"] This whole ordeal with my son has taken a lot out of me this week. What I thought was exhaustion and some depression turned out to be illness, and I've been out of commission for 2 days. Update on the situation: the school requested a "threat assessment" - which determined that he isn't a threat. However, my son has been in in-school suspension Tues-Fri, and will have to be there again on Monday. A meeting is scheduled for Monday, to discuss what plans they have for him. Something about a "graduated re-entry" into his class. He had another incident on Tuesday. At the end of the day the substitute who was with him during the day brought him back to his classroom to give his teacher the work he had completed. He went to his desk and pulled out his baseball cards (The reward system his class uses.) and started to count them. The teacher asked him to put them away and difficult child ignored her. The sub went over and took them away, triggering a tantrum. Nothing was thrown, he just shoved his desk and crawled under a table. Since there wasn't an administrator on campus, I got called to his room to calm him down. After it was all over, his teacher had a revelation but it wasn't the one I was hoping for. She feels that when he hears a "request" (I hear "command") he should snap to the appropriate response. She believes he is choosing to do what he wants, and should "fear" what will happen if he doesn't comply. She thinks he is a "strong-willed child" and he needs to learn to respect authority. She went on to say that she isn't going to take the time to go over and talk to him about why he is making the noises unless she is required to. I'm flabbergasted that this is a woman who has taught for over 25 years! Isn't part of our job to help kids with their social/emotional learning along with the academics?!?!? I know that he doesn't do these things out of disrespect. And honestly, if I could have gotten him to "comply" with requests so easily none of us would be in this situation. Right now, I plan to move forward with a SPED referal to assure that he gets the support he needs. I have the letter from the Dr. with his ADHD diagnosis, and I have my letter written. [/QUOTE]
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