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<blockquote data-quote="Otto von Bismark" data-source="post: 478577" data-attributes="member: 12905"><p>I was going to say pretty much what MidwestMom says, only she said it better. I have explosive/anxious teen daughter and blended family. We blended when she was a lot younger but there are still issues, so I can sort of relate. What struck me with your situation is that there is a new live-in girlfriend. New baby. And THREE other daughters who now live with you. So you have 4 other girls and a baby living with you and your daughter. </p><p>In her eyes, it used to be you two as a family unit, and now she is forced out of the family (literally asked to leave her home) that is now filled with other daughters whom you are now parenting. She did not ask for that and probably had no say in the matter.</p><p></p><p>You can't give up on her. Her mother already did. </p><p>She has to be a priority in your life, and she has to feel like one. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. Don't give up on her no matter what she says or does. Not at this stage, anyway. She is angry and has an immature teenage brain, so she is going to do and say things that sound like she is making decisions, when really, she is just hurt and angry. ("Do you want to go live with Elsie and Ned and enroll in a new school?" "Fine, whatever.")</p><p></p><p>It is hard to have compassion when they act so nasty, but you have to dig down and find it somewhere in you, even when her behavior rocks the whole house. When I say compassion, I don't mean letting her bad behavior slide, but the compassion that makes you keep fighting for her. Remember she is still your little girl. : ) Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Otto von Bismark, post: 478577, member: 12905"] I was going to say pretty much what MidwestMom says, only she said it better. I have explosive/anxious teen daughter and blended family. We blended when she was a lot younger but there are still issues, so I can sort of relate. What struck me with your situation is that there is a new live-in girlfriend. New baby. And THREE other daughters who now live with you. So you have 4 other girls and a baby living with you and your daughter. In her eyes, it used to be you two as a family unit, and now she is forced out of the family (literally asked to leave her home) that is now filled with other daughters whom you are now parenting. She did not ask for that and probably had no say in the matter. You can't give up on her. Her mother already did. She has to be a priority in your life, and she has to feel like one. Hang in there. Don't give up on her no matter what she says or does. Not at this stage, anyway. She is angry and has an immature teenage brain, so she is going to do and say things that sound like she is making decisions, when really, she is just hurt and angry. ("Do you want to go live with Elsie and Ned and enroll in a new school?" "Fine, whatever.") It is hard to have compassion when they act so nasty, but you have to dig down and find it somewhere in you, even when her behavior rocks the whole house. When I say compassion, I don't mean letting her bad behavior slide, but the compassion that makes you keep fighting for her. Remember she is still your little girl. : ) Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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