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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 611162" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Welcome, Mairrey. I do not usually post on the General Forum, but RE called our attention to this post in the Parent Emeritus forum, which is where most of the members with grown difficult children post.</p><p></p><p>What strikes me from the outset of your plea is that you say that <em>you </em>have tried to get your daughter off the street and <em>you</em> have failed. I think you may be taking on <em>her</em> burden. I know that this doesn't make sense to most of us when we first consider it but at some level this is the life your daughter is choosing. We don't get to make these types of decisions for grown people regardless of how much we want to. I know the feeling that "she'll <em>never</em> make the right decision on her own" can be overwhelming, but you'll never know unless you are not there for her to blame for her failures because "you are mean".</p><p></p><p>You owe it to yourself and to your 13 year old son to get these people out of your house. If nothing else <em>he</em> needs to know that if you lay around and don't get a job you don't get a free ride from mom.</p><p></p><p>FWIW, she lived on a boat which was stolen so they "found a bum's shopping cart and put on the clothes"? As in "They stole clothes from someone who was doing the best for themselves that they could"? Do you <em>seriously </em>think that "bums" leave their shopping carts unattended? You need to figure out who this man is that you let into your house and get him the heck out of there. There is no way this is going to end well. And in the meantime lock up your valuables, medications, checkbooks, identity cards, weapons, and don't bring any more alcohol into the house. And by all means <em>don't </em>leave them alone there, <em>especially</em> with your 13 year old.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 611162, member: 99"] Welcome, Mairrey. I do not usually post on the General Forum, but RE called our attention to this post in the Parent Emeritus forum, which is where most of the members with grown difficult children post. What strikes me from the outset of your plea is that you say that [I]you [/I]have tried to get your daughter off the street and [I]you[/I] have failed. I think you may be taking on [I]her[/I] burden. I know that this doesn't make sense to most of us when we first consider it but at some level this is the life your daughter is choosing. We don't get to make these types of decisions for grown people regardless of how much we want to. I know the feeling that "she'll [I]never[/I] make the right decision on her own" can be overwhelming, but you'll never know unless you are not there for her to blame for her failures because "you are mean". You owe it to yourself and to your 13 year old son to get these people out of your house. If nothing else [I]he[/I] needs to know that if you lay around and don't get a job you don't get a free ride from mom. FWIW, she lived on a boat which was stolen so they "found a bum's shopping cart and put on the clothes"? As in "They stole clothes from someone who was doing the best for themselves that they could"? Do you [I]seriously [/I]think that "bums" leave their shopping carts unattended? You need to figure out who this man is that you let into your house and get him the heck out of there. There is no way this is going to end well. And in the meantime lock up your valuables, medications, checkbooks, identity cards, weapons, and don't bring any more alcohol into the house. And by all means [I]don't [/I]leave them alone there, [I]especially[/I] with your 13 year old. [/QUOTE]
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