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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 611166" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>This is not your failure, Mairrey.</p><p></p><p>The daughter is making a choice. It is easier right now for her to stay where she is. She has everything she needs without having to do anything for it...which is what she has been doing, all along. What I see is that she is also manipulating you, the father, and the grandmother. This may have been a pattern for her when she was younger, too. She is blaming you to her father and her grandmother so you will be frozen in place and they will be, at least verbally, on her "side." But here is the thing: this is a family. There should not be a side.</p><p></p><p>There is a 13 year old boy who needs protection here, too.</p><p></p><p>I was going to suggest that the grandmother take the granddaughter, at least until the father comes home. This child has effectively blocked you from having authority over her in your own home. Then, I realized that of course, the grandmother is going to say she cannot have the unmarried male and the dogs in her home.</p><p></p><p>Checkmate, again.</p><p></p><p>Is there drug use involved?</p><p></p><p>If you have the courage and the authority to do it, I would tell them both that you have decided they need to leave, tonight. Bring them to wherever they serve hot meals for the homeless in your area before dinner hour, there. That will give you a timeframe to work with. I may be speaking out of turn here, but if you are uncomfortable taking this kind of action, or if you feel your husband would not support you in this action, you might consider planning for a place for you and your son to go. Let your husband know that you are uncomfortable with having taken in an unknown, homeless, jobless, 34 year old male for his daughter's sake. Tell him you have asked them to leave and they have refused.</p><p></p><p>So, you are leaving.</p><p></p><p>Is there anywhere you can go until the husband returns?</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>What is your husband's position? Will he back you up if you send them to a shelter? Will he back you up if you need to call the police to have them removed from your home? </p><p></p><p>In the blue pages of your phone book, there will be a section on Social Services. If you call them and explain your situation, they may be able to give you information.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 611166, member: 1721"] This is not your failure, Mairrey. The daughter is making a choice. It is easier right now for her to stay where she is. She has everything she needs without having to do anything for it...which is what she has been doing, all along. What I see is that she is also manipulating you, the father, and the grandmother. This may have been a pattern for her when she was younger, too. She is blaming you to her father and her grandmother so you will be frozen in place and they will be, at least verbally, on her "side." But here is the thing: this is a family. There should not be a side. There is a 13 year old boy who needs protection here, too. I was going to suggest that the grandmother take the granddaughter, at least until the father comes home. This child has effectively blocked you from having authority over her in your own home. Then, I realized that of course, the grandmother is going to say she cannot have the unmarried male and the dogs in her home. Checkmate, again. Is there drug use involved? If you have the courage and the authority to do it, I would tell them both that you have decided they need to leave, tonight. Bring them to wherever they serve hot meals for the homeless in your area before dinner hour, there. That will give you a timeframe to work with. I may be speaking out of turn here, but if you are uncomfortable taking this kind of action, or if you feel your husband would not support you in this action, you might consider planning for a place for you and your son to go. Let your husband know that you are uncomfortable with having taken in an unknown, homeless, jobless, 34 year old male for his daughter's sake. Tell him you have asked them to leave and they have refused. So, you are leaving. Is there anywhere you can go until the husband returns? Cedar What is your husband's position? Will he back you up if you send them to a shelter? Will he back you up if you need to call the police to have them removed from your home? In the blue pages of your phone book, there will be a section on Social Services. If you call them and explain your situation, they may be able to give you information. [/QUOTE]
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