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<blockquote data-quote="RbkrBkr" data-source="post: 338412" data-attributes="member: 8922"><p>We have been snowed in for going on 5 days now. We had meltdowns and came back from it, but today.. I am feeling a little overwhelmed. Trying to be a good mom/stepmom and be consistent and teach good values, but I always feel like the bad guy! Jaime is an exceptionally sweet 9 little girl 95% of the time, the other time is a duzzie! (Diagnosed with ADHD and Anxiety/Depression and is very behind in school (Psychiatrist and Psychological testing), with questions on ODD, and bipolar). </p><p>My husband and I have been together since she was 4, and sad to say she is rejected by her biomother whom did not come for visits for 7 months and started making regular visits recently. I have been dubbed mom however I try to promote her birth mother in a positive light when at all possible. We have been in therapy for 2 years now and the new feelings that have surfaced are anger. I understand that most of it is projected but it is so hard on days like this. Our family is big on Respect and Character building so when a Character rule is broken it is a given that a consequence is to ensue. Any reprimand for negative behavior is taken as personal attack. However the behavior continues and nothing is resolved just my husband and I are exhausted. We have tried the following types of parenting techniques: explanation of Why this is not acceptable, time-outs to calm down (walking, corner, standing outside on the porch), spankings (very rarely 2 times, my husband and I are not big fans), open discussion at home, and in therapy, reward charts/systems, grounding (friends,toys,phone,tv).. We even watched educational videos on certain behaviors, and nothing Does any of this sound like something you guys have experienced? How did/do you cope? </p><p> </p><p>Not sure how to do all the code words yet</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RbkrBkr, post: 338412, member: 8922"] We have been snowed in for going on 5 days now. We had meltdowns and came back from it, but today.. I am feeling a little overwhelmed. Trying to be a good mom/stepmom and be consistent and teach good values, but I always feel like the bad guy! Jaime is an exceptionally sweet 9 little girl 95% of the time, the other time is a duzzie! (Diagnosed with ADHD and Anxiety/Depression and is very behind in school (Psychiatrist and Psychological testing), with questions on ODD, and bipolar). My husband and I have been together since she was 4, and sad to say she is rejected by her biomother whom did not come for visits for 7 months and started making regular visits recently. I have been dubbed mom however I try to promote her birth mother in a positive light when at all possible. We have been in therapy for 2 years now and the new feelings that have surfaced are anger. I understand that most of it is projected but it is so hard on days like this. Our family is big on Respect and Character building so when a Character rule is broken it is a given that a consequence is to ensue. Any reprimand for negative behavior is taken as personal attack. However the behavior continues and nothing is resolved just my husband and I are exhausted. We have tried the following types of parenting techniques: explanation of Why this is not acceptable, time-outs to calm down (walking, corner, standing outside on the porch), spankings (very rarely 2 times, my husband and I are not big fans), open discussion at home, and in therapy, reward charts/systems, grounding (friends,toys,phone,tv).. We even watched educational videos on certain behaviors, and nothing Does any of this sound like something you guys have experienced? How did/do you cope? Not sure how to do all the code words yet [/QUOTE]
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