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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 205625" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I was telling girlfriend's mother the other night about an incident with difficult child 1 at school (right when I pulled him out, as a matter of fact) when his acting principal was trying to backpedal fast and turn my anger onto difficult child 1, by trying to find things he had done wrong. Among things she was using to try to get me angry, was - a piece of rope had been found in his schoolbag, tied into a noose. Well, I knew difficult child 1 had been playing with piece of string, pieces of rope etc for years, tying them into nooses. Generally the pieces of rope were about a foot long, not long enough to make a usable noose. it was just a thing he did. It didn't mean anything. Most of his nooses were made with thin twine, like a noose in miniature. And I was supposed to feel anxious over it! </p><p></p><p>There are threats, and there are threats. difficult child 1's nooses were never a threat. Him taking throwing knives to school - darn stupid, but never a threat. All he ever did with those throwing knives either at home or a friend's place was to throw them at a target painted in mud on the back fence. </p><p></p><p>I think I've had kids say they hate me and want to kill me. I tell them to go ahead, but be prepared for a very unpleasant life behind bars, and without me to fight the battles for them. I even at one point had difficult child 1 say he wanted to kill himself - I said to him, "Don't you dare. I get to go first, not you. I have a lot more physical pain, I've endured just as much emotional pain even if you think you've got the monopoly on it; I've done the research on how to kill myself but I made the choice to stick around because I have kids who need me. So if you go off and kill yourself - that's not fair, that's jumping the queue. It's not your turn yet."</p><p></p><p>OK, it's unconventional, but it seemed to work. I think I shocked him when I told him how I feel about being disabled. He never again said he wanted to kill himself or gave any indication he was thinking of it.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 205625, member: 1991"] I was telling girlfriend's mother the other night about an incident with difficult child 1 at school (right when I pulled him out, as a matter of fact) when his acting principal was trying to backpedal fast and turn my anger onto difficult child 1, by trying to find things he had done wrong. Among things she was using to try to get me angry, was - a piece of rope had been found in his schoolbag, tied into a noose. Well, I knew difficult child 1 had been playing with piece of string, pieces of rope etc for years, tying them into nooses. Generally the pieces of rope were about a foot long, not long enough to make a usable noose. it was just a thing he did. It didn't mean anything. Most of his nooses were made with thin twine, like a noose in miniature. And I was supposed to feel anxious over it! There are threats, and there are threats. difficult child 1's nooses were never a threat. Him taking throwing knives to school - darn stupid, but never a threat. All he ever did with those throwing knives either at home or a friend's place was to throw them at a target painted in mud on the back fence. I think I've had kids say they hate me and want to kill me. I tell them to go ahead, but be prepared for a very unpleasant life behind bars, and without me to fight the battles for them. I even at one point had difficult child 1 say he wanted to kill himself - I said to him, "Don't you dare. I get to go first, not you. I have a lot more physical pain, I've endured just as much emotional pain even if you think you've got the monopoly on it; I've done the research on how to kill myself but I made the choice to stick around because I have kids who need me. So if you go off and kill yourself - that's not fair, that's jumping the queue. It's not your turn yet." OK, it's unconventional, but it seemed to work. I think I shocked him when I told him how I feel about being disabled. He never again said he wanted to kill himself or gave any indication he was thinking of it. Marg [/QUOTE]
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