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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 59725" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Got your PM Mikey.</p><p></p><p>I completely understand wanting to be on a united front with the Mrs. I further get that the timing was just one more thing to make difficult child believe that you are bluffing. Most importantly, I get you wanting to keep peace with your wife, because you love her so much. Don't think for one second that I belittling your efforts. In fact, kudos to you. You are one of a few men (I believe I can count them on one hand) who are taking the reins in trying to control the difficult child.</p><p></p><p>So, everything that it took you this long to come to terms with, now wife needs to come to terms with. I agree with any poster who mentioned Al-Anon, and it sure would not hurt if Dancer joined you. Her future happiness is at stake here (with Dr. Doobage wreaking havoc on the family). I believe that in the meantime, until you and wife can reach an agreement, you may want to not say anything to difficult child, or as little as possible. Yes, it may seem counter-productive, like going against everything that everyone has said. But what you cannot do is give anymore empty threats. Either follow through on the threats or don't threaten at all. </p><p></p><p>Get your ducks in a row with your wife, like today. Then figure out what you are going to do with Cap'n Cannabais.</p><p></p><p>Whew. Teenagers s.uck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 59725, member: 3647"] Got your PM Mikey. I completely understand wanting to be on a united front with the Mrs. I further get that the timing was just one more thing to make difficult child believe that you are bluffing. Most importantly, I get you wanting to keep peace with your wife, because you love her so much. Don't think for one second that I belittling your efforts. In fact, kudos to you. You are one of a few men (I believe I can count them on one hand) who are taking the reins in trying to control the difficult child. So, everything that it took you this long to come to terms with, now wife needs to come to terms with. I agree with any poster who mentioned Al-Anon, and it sure would not hurt if Dancer joined you. Her future happiness is at stake here (with Dr. Doobage wreaking havoc on the family). I believe that in the meantime, until you and wife can reach an agreement, you may want to not say anything to difficult child, or as little as possible. Yes, it may seem counter-productive, like going against everything that everyone has said. But what you cannot do is give anymore empty threats. Either follow through on the threats or don't threaten at all. Get your ducks in a row with your wife, like today. Then figure out what you are going to do with Cap'n Cannabais. Whew. Teenagers s.uck! [/QUOTE]
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