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<blockquote data-quote="PonyGirl" data-source="post: 59766" data-attributes="member: 187"><p>Hi Mikey</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry to read the latest chapter. Just so you know, I <strong><span style='font-size: 11pt'>HAVE BEEN </span></strong>where wife <strong><span style='font-size: 11pt'>IS</span></strong>. <u><em><strong>Excatly </strong></em></u>in that same place. husband wanted to ride roughshod, I wanted to not confront. Really icky place to be.</p><p></p><p>Let me tell you my perspective, from a <strong>wife</strong> <em>instead </em>of as a <strong>Warrior Mom</strong>. This is what I felt towards husband during those good cop/bad cop days:</p><p></p><p>Your support of your wife and wish to keep the peace is GREATLY APPRECIATED!!! :kisses:</p><p></p><p>Her perceived anger at you is really her fear that her son will be harmed. :crying:</p><p></p><p>I knew something had to be done to stop my son, but I didn't want to have to be present when it happened. I also didn't want anyone else to do the something. Endless tail chasing!! :devil:</p><p></p><p>My husband's reassurance was constant and unfailing. He also <strong><em>never quit </em></strong>giving suggestions...and getting angry when I didn't follow through. But he always <em>always </em>told me he loved me, was proud of me, supported whatever I decided.</p><p></p><p>Stand back and give wife hugs when she needs. She knows you disagree with her methods, that you want to try other alternatives, but she's not ready yet. She will be. Wait for her.</p><p></p><p>Okay and now for some real harsh advice: </p><p> :nonono:DON'T GO OUT LOOKING FOR HIM ANYMORE AFTER CURFEW!!!! </p><p>DON'T CALL REPEATEDLY ANYMORE!!! :nonono:</p><p>Stop doing that to yourself. If real physical harm does come to your son, it is <strong>NOT </strong>going to be <strong>YOUR FAULT </strong>no matter what you do or don't do.</p><p></p><p>Talk with your wife outside the heat of the moment. I hope you have already today. Let her know what YOU want to do, and then let her tell you what SHE wants to do, and then agree to whatever. And then stick to it.</p><p></p><p>I feel for you, and for your dear wife. This is such an awful place to be. I really do know. Keeping you all in my thoughts. :flower:</p><p></p><p>Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PonyGirl, post: 59766, member: 187"] Hi Mikey I am so sorry to read the latest chapter. Just so you know, I [b]<span style='font-size: 11pt'>HAVE BEEN </span>[/b]where wife [b]<span style='font-size: 11pt'>IS</span>[/b]. <u>[i][b]Excatly [/b][/i]</u>in that same place. husband wanted to ride roughshod, I wanted to not confront. Really icky place to be. Let me tell you my perspective, from a [b]wife[/b] [i]instead [/i]of as a [b]Warrior Mom[/b]. This is what I felt towards husband during those good cop/bad cop days: Your support of your wife and wish to keep the peace is GREATLY APPRECIATED!!! [img]:kisses:[/img] Her perceived anger at you is really her fear that her son will be harmed. [img]:crying:[/img] I knew something had to be done to stop my son, but I didn't want to have to be present when it happened. I also didn't want anyone else to do the something. Endless tail chasing!! [img]:devil:[/img] My husband's reassurance was constant and unfailing. He also [b][i]never quit [/i][/b]giving suggestions...and getting angry when I didn't follow through. But he always [i]always [/i]told me he loved me, was proud of me, supported whatever I decided. Stand back and give wife hugs when she needs. She knows you disagree with her methods, that you want to try other alternatives, but she's not ready yet. She will be. Wait for her. Okay and now for some real harsh advice: [img]:nonono:[/img]DON'T GO OUT LOOKING FOR HIM ANYMORE AFTER CURFEW!!!! DON'T CALL REPEATEDLY ANYMORE!!! [img]:nonono:[/img] Stop doing that to yourself. If real physical harm does come to your son, it is [b]NOT [/b]going to be [b]YOUR FAULT [/b]no matter what you do or don't do. Talk with your wife outside the heat of the moment. I hope you have already today. Let her know what YOU want to do, and then let her tell you what SHE wants to do, and then agree to whatever. And then stick to it. I feel for you, and for your dear wife. This is such an awful place to be. I really do know. Keeping you all in my thoughts. [img]:flower:[/img] Peace [/QUOTE]
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