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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 59921" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The calls are pretty much for the same reason. I don't call any more unless I have to. And when I know that his phone works, and that he's taking/making calls to/from his friends, and know he's deliberately ignoring my calls, it's almost like he's flipping me off six inches from my nose. </p><p> </div></div></p><p></p><p>He is most definitely flipping you off and will continue to do until you are ready to take away the phone.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, stop calling him. You aren't accomplishing anything.</p><p></p><p>I understand that your wife is not on the same page. Have you talked with her about making him responsible for paying for his own phone? That is something he should learn to do whether he is a difficult child or not. I know that you said that he is working. What does he do with his money? I have a feeling you know the answer to that. Why shouldn't he be paying for his own phone, gas, and insurance at the very least? Of course, in my opinion, he shouldn't be driving at all.</p><p></p><p>Mikey, running around looking for him isn't accomplishing anything either. It doesn't stop what he is doing. I understand the need since I was compulsive about checking on my difficult child's myspace page. I finally realized that it didn't change anything and it was just making me feel worse. When I finally stopped, I felt a great sense of relief.</p><p></p><p>You describe yourself as obsessive in your signature. I do think that is part of the problem here. I don't think you are overreacting in that your son is definitely up to no good. But I do think you are overinvolved and need to pull way back.</p><p></p><p>Easier said than done, though.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 59921, member: 1967"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The calls are pretty much for the same reason. I don't call any more unless I have to. And when I know that his phone works, and that he's taking/making calls to/from his friends, and know he's deliberately ignoring my calls, it's almost like he's flipping me off six inches from my nose. </div></div> He is most definitely flipping you off and will continue to do until you are ready to take away the phone. In the meantime, stop calling him. You aren't accomplishing anything. I understand that your wife is not on the same page. Have you talked with her about making him responsible for paying for his own phone? That is something he should learn to do whether he is a difficult child or not. I know that you said that he is working. What does he do with his money? I have a feeling you know the answer to that. Why shouldn't he be paying for his own phone, gas, and insurance at the very least? Of course, in my opinion, he shouldn't be driving at all. Mikey, running around looking for him isn't accomplishing anything either. It doesn't stop what he is doing. I understand the need since I was compulsive about checking on my difficult child's myspace page. I finally realized that it didn't change anything and it was just making me feel worse. When I finally stopped, I felt a great sense of relief. You describe yourself as obsessive in your signature. I do think that is part of the problem here. I don't think you are overreacting in that your son is definitely up to no good. But I do think you are overinvolved and need to pull way back. Easier said than done, though. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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