Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Unethical relatives
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 228823" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Hmmmmmm. I see this from both sides. Being someone in the medical profession I surely wouldn't like someone taping me. But I've also had doctors tell me things in detail only to deny it completely on the next visit. So I can understand his frustration with that. And yes, I've had them not believe me until I've forced them to go into the records and find what I'm talking about.</p><p> </p><p>Is this patterned behavior, or is this aggitation more recent? May be that he's angry and frustrated at the whole system...docs, nurses, treatment, ect. And this is his way of dealing with it. </p><p> </p><p>I'd like to say that all docs and nurses take patients at their word, listen attentively, and look to see if what the patient is telling them is correct in the records. I'd like to say that, but sadly I can't. And with the elderly it's even worse. They are assumed to be "forgetful" or unable to hear, maybe even understand what is being told to them. So docs and nurses may take what they have to say with a grain of salt. I've had to defend many an elderly patient over the years.</p><p> </p><p>I understand you're concern. I'd be concerned too. But I can tell you my mother in law who has the patience of a saint has been known to unleash her wrath on her fam doctor when he decides to poo poo on her wishes ect. And it's not pretty. And she'll stay worked up until we can prove to her the situation has been taken care of. (and I swear she shocks him a few years off his life every time she does it too)</p><p> </p><p>Would your Dad feel more assured if you were to go along with him to doctor visits? Or another family member he can trust? Someone who can help explain what the doctor says and who he knows will stand up for him if necessary?</p><p> </p><p>I dunno about his past or the personality disorder. But your post reminded me of the many many elderly I've cared for.........your Dad sounds scared to me.</p><p> </p><p>Now when my step dad was so ill, and it began to distort his personality (and he didn't have such a great one to begin with) I worried about him being around the kids. But oddly enough.....he never really acted that way around them. Of ocurse we also lived 2 states away and he didn't get to see them but a couple of times during his illness.</p><p> </p><p>As for the tape recorder........I wouldn't say a word. Odds are he's not going to sue. And he's in no physical shape to harm anyone. But just in case.....might have Mom sell the guns and ammo.</p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 228823, member: 84"] Hmmmmmm. I see this from both sides. Being someone in the medical profession I surely wouldn't like someone taping me. But I've also had doctors tell me things in detail only to deny it completely on the next visit. So I can understand his frustration with that. And yes, I've had them not believe me until I've forced them to go into the records and find what I'm talking about. Is this patterned behavior, or is this aggitation more recent? May be that he's angry and frustrated at the whole system...docs, nurses, treatment, ect. And this is his way of dealing with it. I'd like to say that all docs and nurses take patients at their word, listen attentively, and look to see if what the patient is telling them is correct in the records. I'd like to say that, but sadly I can't. And with the elderly it's even worse. They are assumed to be "forgetful" or unable to hear, maybe even understand what is being told to them. So docs and nurses may take what they have to say with a grain of salt. I've had to defend many an elderly patient over the years. I understand you're concern. I'd be concerned too. But I can tell you my mother in law who has the patience of a saint has been known to unleash her wrath on her fam doctor when he decides to poo poo on her wishes ect. And it's not pretty. And she'll stay worked up until we can prove to her the situation has been taken care of. (and I swear she shocks him a few years off his life every time she does it too) Would your Dad feel more assured if you were to go along with him to doctor visits? Or another family member he can trust? Someone who can help explain what the doctor says and who he knows will stand up for him if necessary? I dunno about his past or the personality disorder. But your post reminded me of the many many elderly I've cared for.........your Dad sounds scared to me. Now when my step dad was so ill, and it began to distort his personality (and he didn't have such a great one to begin with) I worried about him being around the kids. But oddly enough.....he never really acted that way around them. Of ocurse we also lived 2 states away and he didn't get to see them but a couple of times during his illness. As for the tape recorder........I wouldn't say a word. Odds are he's not going to sue. And he's in no physical shape to harm anyone. But just in case.....might have Mom sell the guns and ammo. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Unethical relatives
Top