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<blockquote data-quote="hexemaus2" data-source="post: 391301" data-attributes="member: 4560"><p>Susiestar, I had the same response for difficult child 1 when she tried the "I'm going to call DFCS!" bit. </p><p> </p><p>The first time, I told her if she called, she might want to keep in mind that it takes about 7 minutes for the cops to show up. If I was going to go to jail, get put through the wringer with DFCS, and have my name besmerched, I would make darn sure that in that 7 minutes, they'd have a reason for it. If she was willing to endure a jail-worthy beating for 7 minutes, then by all means, let me make that call for you. (Thank Heavens she never called my bluff on it. I don't think I would have stopped at 7 minutes. lol. Just kidding.)</p><p> </p><p>The second time, I called her bluff. I called the officers out. I took her outside to meet them, told them she felt she was being abused, then brought them inside to see her room - the cleaning of which she had told me was "your lazy-<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> job, not mine." Rather than cleaning it, she had herself a little tyraid, pulling down bookshelves, etc. It looked like a tornado hit just her room. The officer turned to her, pulled her off to the side, and explained a few rules of life to her. He then turned her around, showed her I could (and should) spank her as often as I felt necessary from "here to here" (indicating her waistline to the bottom of her butt) so long as by the time they arrived there were no marks. He even went so far as to tell me that when I was ready, to give him a call (as he handed me his card) and he would hold her down for me to ensure I didn't accidentally miss. All the other officer said to her was "Be darn glad you aren't my kid. You'd never have a chance to insult your mother like that in my house."</p><p> </p><p>The sad thing? difficult child 1 was convinced that from that point on I had the ENTIRE police department brainwashed against her. Hmmm...</p><p> </p><p>When she was pregnant, before we moved, she was upset that I banned her new/replacement boyfriend from our house. (Long story short, he had a criminal history.) Her response was to sneak out her bedroom window and walk up to the police station to report me for neglect. (We were in the midst of our move, so I had switched her ob/gyn. The soonest appointment was going to be 2 weeks later than her normal monthly check up with the old ob/gyn. The 6 weeks between visits was the basis for "neglect" in her eyes. I wasn't making sure she had MONTHLY check ups. Ugh.) She got a rather rude awakening when rather than getting ME in trouble, she got the baby's father arrested and got herself charged with fornication because she admitted to the police that she was 16, having sex with a 19 year old and had been doing so since she was 15 & he was 18. </p><p> </p><p>You'd think after all this time, she'd have figured out that trying to get me in trouble for being a responsible Mom would only backfire. Nope. It just solidified her belief that I had the police force brainwashed. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hypnosis.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hypnosis:" title="hypnosis :hypnosis:" data-shortname=":hypnosis:" /></p><p> </p><p>Maybe someday, she'll learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hexemaus2, post: 391301, member: 4560"] Susiestar, I had the same response for difficult child 1 when she tried the "I'm going to call DFCS!" bit. The first time, I told her if she called, she might want to keep in mind that it takes about 7 minutes for the cops to show up. If I was going to go to jail, get put through the wringer with DFCS, and have my name besmerched, I would make darn sure that in that 7 minutes, they'd have a reason for it. If she was willing to endure a jail-worthy beating for 7 minutes, then by all means, let me make that call for you. (Thank Heavens she never called my bluff on it. I don't think I would have stopped at 7 minutes. lol. Just kidding.) The second time, I called her bluff. I called the officers out. I took her outside to meet them, told them she felt she was being abused, then brought them inside to see her room - the cleaning of which she had told me was "your lazy-:censored2: job, not mine." Rather than cleaning it, she had herself a little tyraid, pulling down bookshelves, etc. It looked like a tornado hit just her room. The officer turned to her, pulled her off to the side, and explained a few rules of life to her. He then turned her around, showed her I could (and should) spank her as often as I felt necessary from "here to here" (indicating her waistline to the bottom of her butt) so long as by the time they arrived there were no marks. He even went so far as to tell me that when I was ready, to give him a call (as he handed me his card) and he would hold her down for me to ensure I didn't accidentally miss. All the other officer said to her was "Be darn glad you aren't my kid. You'd never have a chance to insult your mother like that in my house." The sad thing? difficult child 1 was convinced that from that point on I had the ENTIRE police department brainwashed against her. Hmmm... When she was pregnant, before we moved, she was upset that I banned her new/replacement boyfriend from our house. (Long story short, he had a criminal history.) Her response was to sneak out her bedroom window and walk up to the police station to report me for neglect. (We were in the midst of our move, so I had switched her ob/gyn. The soonest appointment was going to be 2 weeks later than her normal monthly check up with the old ob/gyn. The 6 weeks between visits was the basis for "neglect" in her eyes. I wasn't making sure she had MONTHLY check ups. Ugh.) She got a rather rude awakening when rather than getting ME in trouble, she got the baby's father arrested and got herself charged with fornication because she admitted to the police that she was 16, having sex with a 19 year old and had been doing so since she was 15 & he was 18. You'd think after all this time, she'd have figured out that trying to get me in trouble for being a responsible Mom would only backfire. Nope. It just solidified her belief that I had the police force brainwashed. :hypnosis: Maybe someday, she'll learn. [/QUOTE]
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