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Update: difficult child's First Day at Camp
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 372940" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The camp is still in early days for difficult child. Let difficult child stay up late and have lots of candy and junk food, then go to camp. I bet after a few days of that her tune will change. Also insist she do some chores at home - if she can do chores at camp she can do them at home too. This will help the doctor get to see the REAL difficult child. Many of us ease off of the expectations if our child is at something like this camp where they are working a good part of the day. It is good if the child needs to perform and we want them to be on good behavior. </p><p> </p><p>Your case is different. You want her to show her gfgness. So keep the home expectations in place (more realistic because adults still have to come home and do chores after work) and let her have some "rewards" like staying up later because she is being "responsible" at camp. It is a way to encourage her to let down her guard and show her true colors, even if it may feel a bit manipulative. Even if it is manipulative, the goal is not to make her fail but to let the doctor see what she is truly like so that he can really help her. He cannot treat what he cannot see, after all.</p><p> </p><p>Is there any way you could have some video cameras installed while she is out so that you could record her actions for the doctor to see? Unless these docs can really see what the difficult children are doing they have a hard time not being taken in by their angel acts. Also, if difficult child has inappropriate clothing that you fight about, why not let her wear the clothing to psychiatrist appts and/or to this camp? It may help the doctor see the real difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 372940, member: 1233"] The camp is still in early days for difficult child. Let difficult child stay up late and have lots of candy and junk food, then go to camp. I bet after a few days of that her tune will change. Also insist she do some chores at home - if she can do chores at camp she can do them at home too. This will help the doctor get to see the REAL difficult child. Many of us ease off of the expectations if our child is at something like this camp where they are working a good part of the day. It is good if the child needs to perform and we want them to be on good behavior. Your case is different. You want her to show her gfgness. So keep the home expectations in place (more realistic because adults still have to come home and do chores after work) and let her have some "rewards" like staying up later because she is being "responsible" at camp. It is a way to encourage her to let down her guard and show her true colors, even if it may feel a bit manipulative. Even if it is manipulative, the goal is not to make her fail but to let the doctor see what she is truly like so that he can really help her. He cannot treat what he cannot see, after all. Is there any way you could have some video cameras installed while she is out so that you could record her actions for the doctor to see? Unless these docs can really see what the difficult children are doing they have a hard time not being taken in by their angel acts. Also, if difficult child has inappropriate clothing that you fight about, why not let her wear the clothing to psychiatrist appts and/or to this camp? It may help the doctor see the real difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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