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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 127769" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Personally, I don't think a swat on the rear is all that bad of an idea at times. The rule has to be that it is controlled, not done out of anger or frustration. We all blow it. I grounded my daughter for almost all of her teen life for one incident and the escalation caused by her mouth. I made her write "I will not steal" over 1,000 times. Both were insurmountable for her. Both were done out of anger and frustration by me. I had to back down and find a new way to parent. So, I'm not judging and I do understand but you also need to understand that there is a huge difference with swatting a child on the rear (or even using a switch on them) when it is because you feel it will teach your child something or losing control. When you tossed the water, whether in her direction or in her face or whatever, you lost control. As hard as it is, as difficult as she may be, it is up to you to be the adult and take responsibility for your actions.</p><p> </p><p>What would happen if you were to try some medications now and if they didn't leave you thinking clearly, get off of them before your daughter's evaluation? Is that a possible option? I rarely suggest anyone take medications -- it is a personal decision each of us must make. However, I'm truly concerned you are pushing yourself too hard. The last thing you need to do is break before the evaluation. Even taking out the commute, you now have new stressors in your SO's possible loss of a job/restaurant. Please take care of yourself, do what you can to help yourself. The healthier, stronger you are, the better you can help your children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 127769, member: 3626"] Personally, I don't think a swat on the rear is all that bad of an idea at times. The rule has to be that it is controlled, not done out of anger or frustration. We all blow it. I grounded my daughter for almost all of her teen life for one incident and the escalation caused by her mouth. I made her write "I will not steal" over 1,000 times. Both were insurmountable for her. Both were done out of anger and frustration by me. I had to back down and find a new way to parent. So, I'm not judging and I do understand but you also need to understand that there is a huge difference with swatting a child on the rear (or even using a switch on them) when it is because you feel it will teach your child something or losing control. When you tossed the water, whether in her direction or in her face or whatever, you lost control. As hard as it is, as difficult as she may be, it is up to you to be the adult and take responsibility for your actions. What would happen if you were to try some medications now and if they didn't leave you thinking clearly, get off of them before your daughter's evaluation? Is that a possible option? I rarely suggest anyone take medications -- it is a personal decision each of us must make. However, I'm truly concerned you are pushing yourself too hard. The last thing you need to do is break before the evaluation. Even taking out the commute, you now have new stressors in your SO's possible loss of a job/restaurant. Please take care of yourself, do what you can to help yourself. The healthier, stronger you are, the better you can help your children. [/QUOTE]
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