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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 127824" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi..........</p><p></p><p>i read your responses, and as always appreciate the time you both gave in choosing your words carefully. i do not have a problem with the word "drugs" at all. Yet to be quite honest with you both at this particular point the pyschiatrist i am seeing does not feel that i need them at this very moment until we can get to the root of the problem. he has openly stated that using the xanax is fine. i had used it last year a little bit helped tremendously.</p><p></p><p>i am burning the candle at both ends like all of us do. Welcome to parenting 101, we all burn out especially with the demands of children with whom require extra care. i am only doing what all of us are im trying to get to work, dealing with two difficult child's, and the rest of life his rest. etc. we can't choose what comes at us and i'm not the type of duck out. </p><p></p><p>i am caring for me very much now i've hit the gym few times taken time out's for myself, i'm even taking day off tmrw for doctor i think i have pnuemonnia all the kids were sick and i haven't kept two previous doctor appts. it happens.</p><p></p><p>anyhow so now that i've addressed the "drug" word.....lol alot can be misunderstood when spoken in an open forum via the internet like this. Body language is. a large percentage of our communication in this world of ours. </p><p></p><p>I do not feel that i am being judged, i'm the type of person with whom believe it or not listens to everyone, weighs it out takes out of it what i like and i live the rest to be quite frank.</p><p></p><p>i keep hearing you say i need help. i am getting help so i guess yes that is a bit frustrating as though i'm on the brink of disaster and have not taken any steps on making me a well and happy individual. i have and have been an active participant in my mental health at this point.</p><p></p><p>when you read that someone is seeing a pyshcdoc and a therapist and then you repeat you need help.......that isn't quite right. that is why i often when i'm not in the greatest of moods will read through posts and just offer my thoughts or hugs to them. it's dangerous stuff lending advice it truly is, has a large impact on people. everyone here is great. but let me repeat i am getting help. i got worried about me and sought it out immediately.</p><p></p><p>in regards to the control issue ofcourse it does happen to us all the best of hte best we all can loose control at times with our children. the only thing we can do is learn from our mistake and then move forward hopefully not repeating hte same one yet again. </p><p></p><p>i have seen a marked improvement in my older difficult child over just a few short days of me being around after school, taking an hour out each day to email her teachers back and forth to keep up to what it is she's doing if she's showing up. her drug screen came back negative on it all. little difficult child needs evaluation so that is what it is she rages i have to physically hold her down and hug her. she just spent an hour struggling to do a book report and crying thru it. love that.</p><p></p><p>anyway so that's that. it takes time it all takes time. i have no choice but to burn it on boht ends. ih ave to make money i hvae to be there for my kids i have to be there for me. i do nto have a choice as many of us do not. i'm actually lucky right now i've paid hte bills alone for 7 years since my divorce. this is the first time i dont' have to worry if rent's getting paid. that in itself is a relief.</p><p></p><p>thanks again for your care and concern this is a wonderful place and i have found the support to be great</p><p></p><p>jenn</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 127824, member: 4514"] hi.......... i read your responses, and as always appreciate the time you both gave in choosing your words carefully. i do not have a problem with the word "drugs" at all. Yet to be quite honest with you both at this particular point the pyschiatrist i am seeing does not feel that i need them at this very moment until we can get to the root of the problem. he has openly stated that using the xanax is fine. i had used it last year a little bit helped tremendously. i am burning the candle at both ends like all of us do. Welcome to parenting 101, we all burn out especially with the demands of children with whom require extra care. i am only doing what all of us are im trying to get to work, dealing with two difficult child's, and the rest of life his rest. etc. we can't choose what comes at us and i'm not the type of duck out. i am caring for me very much now i've hit the gym few times taken time out's for myself, i'm even taking day off tmrw for doctor i think i have pnuemonnia all the kids were sick and i haven't kept two previous doctor appts. it happens. anyhow so now that i've addressed the "drug" word.....lol alot can be misunderstood when spoken in an open forum via the internet like this. Body language is. a large percentage of our communication in this world of ours. I do not feel that i am being judged, i'm the type of person with whom believe it or not listens to everyone, weighs it out takes out of it what i like and i live the rest to be quite frank. i keep hearing you say i need help. i am getting help so i guess yes that is a bit frustrating as though i'm on the brink of disaster and have not taken any steps on making me a well and happy individual. i have and have been an active participant in my mental health at this point. when you read that someone is seeing a pyshcdoc and a therapist and then you repeat you need help.......that isn't quite right. that is why i often when i'm not in the greatest of moods will read through posts and just offer my thoughts or hugs to them. it's dangerous stuff lending advice it truly is, has a large impact on people. everyone here is great. but let me repeat i am getting help. i got worried about me and sought it out immediately. in regards to the control issue ofcourse it does happen to us all the best of hte best we all can loose control at times with our children. the only thing we can do is learn from our mistake and then move forward hopefully not repeating hte same one yet again. i have seen a marked improvement in my older difficult child over just a few short days of me being around after school, taking an hour out each day to email her teachers back and forth to keep up to what it is she's doing if she's showing up. her drug screen came back negative on it all. little difficult child needs evaluation so that is what it is she rages i have to physically hold her down and hug her. she just spent an hour struggling to do a book report and crying thru it. love that. anyway so that's that. it takes time it all takes time. i have no choice but to burn it on boht ends. ih ave to make money i hvae to be there for my kids i have to be there for me. i do nto have a choice as many of us do not. i'm actually lucky right now i've paid hte bills alone for 7 years since my divorce. this is the first time i dont' have to worry if rent's getting paid. that in itself is a relief. thanks again for your care and concern this is a wonderful place and i have found the support to be great jenn [/QUOTE]
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