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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 87212" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm sorry to hear this outcome. I can't speak for your legal system, but I know with ours, a lot of the judges are out of touch with what is now legally acceptable behaviour. Also, standards have changed a lot in recent years, it takes a fair bit for legal authorities at a senior level to stay abreast. At least, here.</p><p></p><p>You tried. Peanut saw that you tried. That will account for a great deal, more than you realise. You now need to move on, to let Peanut learn to move on. This doesn't mean you pretend it didn't happen - it just means you let this drop, at least for now, and find some way in which Peanut will feel safe and supported.</p><p></p><p>Is that counsellor still around? Is he still likely to have access to Peanut if he did go back to the school? I strongly suspect that you have made enough fuss for that counsellor to never do anything inappropriate to Peanut again. You have sent a clear message, even if you didn't get the outcome you wanted. And ultimately, the best outcome is for this counsellor to learn to find a better, non-physical way to resolve any issues. With all you've done, you probably don't need to nail this in place, you've done what you could.</p><p></p><p>The issue now is, Peanut needs to be reassured that he will be safe and treated appropriately. He probably needs to feel supported by the principal as well. Does the principal know how Peanut feels? With a student with anxiety, I would like to think a principal would be doing his utmost to help the student feel less anxious, or at least explain the situation in a way Peanut can understand. </p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 87212, member: 1991"] I'm sorry to hear this outcome. I can't speak for your legal system, but I know with ours, a lot of the judges are out of touch with what is now legally acceptable behaviour. Also, standards have changed a lot in recent years, it takes a fair bit for legal authorities at a senior level to stay abreast. At least, here. You tried. Peanut saw that you tried. That will account for a great deal, more than you realise. You now need to move on, to let Peanut learn to move on. This doesn't mean you pretend it didn't happen - it just means you let this drop, at least for now, and find some way in which Peanut will feel safe and supported. Is that counsellor still around? Is he still likely to have access to Peanut if he did go back to the school? I strongly suspect that you have made enough fuss for that counsellor to never do anything inappropriate to Peanut again. You have sent a clear message, even if you didn't get the outcome you wanted. And ultimately, the best outcome is for this counsellor to learn to find a better, non-physical way to resolve any issues. With all you've done, you probably don't need to nail this in place, you've done what you could. The issue now is, Peanut needs to be reassured that he will be safe and treated appropriately. He probably needs to feel supported by the principal as well. Does the principal know how Peanut feels? With a student with anxiety, I would like to think a principal would be doing his utmost to help the student feel less anxious, or at least explain the situation in a way Peanut can understand. Marg [/QUOTE]
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