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Update on difficult child who recently moved out. Could it be?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619675" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Your post reminds me of this Buddhist parable........</p><p></p><p><u>We'll See..<strong>.</strong></u><strong>***</strong></p><p></p><p>There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.</p><p></p><p>"Such bad luck," they said sympathetically.</p><p></p><p>"We'll see," the farmer replied.</p><p></p><p>The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.</p><p></p><p>"How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.</p><p></p><p>"We'll see," replied the old man.</p><p></p><p>The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.</p><p></p><p>"We'll see," answered the farmer.</p><p></p><p>The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.</p><p></p><p>"We'll see" said the farmer.</p><p></p><p>*******************************************************************************************************</p><p></p><p>WF, your son's actions sound very good. And, as you know, bi-polar cycles are different, they can be very long or very short. But, no matter what the reason, I think TIME is important now. He is doing well where he is, he is not a drain on your parents, everyone is okay. Without making a good or bad, right or wrong judgement, perhaps, as in the story, holding the thought of "we'll see." As time progresses, it will be easier to see if he holds a job and continues in this healthy direction.</p><p></p><p>Having said all of that, I am a believer in the power we all have to enact change in our lives, even if we have a mental illness or a personality disorder, or whatever, I think our power to change ourselves is extraordinary. I hope your son has been shocked out of his depression, I hope this is an enormous victory for you because of the actions you took and for him, that he popped out and launched himself into his life.................and, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions right now..............I would stay the course and do exactly what you are doing..........loving him but remaining detached from his choices.............you are doing a fantastic job WF................and I hope that he continues on his journey to health.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619675, member: 13542"] Your post reminds me of this Buddhist parable........ [U]We'll See..[B].[/B][/U][B]***[/B] There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. "We'll see," the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "We'll see," replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "We'll see," answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. "We'll see" said the farmer. ******************************************************************************************************* WF, your son's actions sound very good. And, as you know, bi-polar cycles are different, they can be very long or very short. But, no matter what the reason, I think TIME is important now. He is doing well where he is, he is not a drain on your parents, everyone is okay. Without making a good or bad, right or wrong judgement, perhaps, as in the story, holding the thought of "we'll see." As time progresses, it will be easier to see if he holds a job and continues in this healthy direction. Having said all of that, I am a believer in the power we all have to enact change in our lives, even if we have a mental illness or a personality disorder, or whatever, I think our power to change ourselves is extraordinary. I hope your son has been shocked out of his depression, I hope this is an enormous victory for you because of the actions you took and for him, that he popped out and launched himself into his life.................and, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions right now..............I would stay the course and do exactly what you are doing..........loving him but remaining detached from his choices.............you are doing a fantastic job WF................and I hope that he continues on his journey to health. [/QUOTE]
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