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<blockquote data-quote="paperplate" data-source="post: 578193" data-attributes="member: 15831"><p>Thanks everyone. Yeah, having to wait on him to get scripts makes me feel kinda lousy. Here's what happened this morning: 6 am, he calls and says he'll get lil ds8 script but I have only 'one chance to tell him what time the store is open' or he's not getting it. Then he calls back and tells me he will only bring it, IF I pull my car out of the garage and into the foot of snow, so he can pull in the garage and close the garage door before he gets out of the car. I said, wait....that's not fair DS8 is really sick, I need the car warm. He said, take it or leave it. The thing is, he knows the neighbors pretty much can't stand him. There are so many reasons why. Like every week I'd get 200$ worth of groceries. And if he was sitting in the garage, drinking a beer or something, they all watched him sit there, while I unloaded the car. Then they'd hear him yell about the 'slop' I bought, where's the receipt etc... And he actually blames ME for them not liking him! I can't tell you how many times I've been referred to as 'stupid', lazy, pig, ****** etc....So how is it MY fault that the neighbors don't like him???? Anyway, since lil DS8 HAD to have the prescriptions (he has the flu), I HAD to move my car to get them. Then he gave me his old cell (he bought himself an Iphone), he said I may use it temporarily and gave me a list a things I may NOT do with the phone?!?!?! UGH! So when my mom called, I let her know the deal & she is currently making calls to verizon to find me a phone that is MINE! She said husband can see who I talk to and read any messages if the phone is his. So basically, that's the situation right now. I can tell he is clearly trying to control the situation even from a distance but I'm SLOWLY getting out from under it. It justs seem like it's taking forever! I HATE begging him for anything. That's been the story of my life! My DS13 in many ways, his behavior towards me comes from a lack of respect. Ever since he was very small whatever he got for his birthday etc... He'd point out that I didn't buy it, Dad did. Whenever the kids need anything, they automatically say "do you think dad will give you any money? can you ask dad for some money?" etc....My favorite (NOT), about grocery day was this: He came home from work. Friday is grocery day. He'd sit at the computer and put his feet up. I'd say "Can I have the card now to go get the food", he'd say "When I'm ready I'll give it to you". Then he'd just sit there. Sometimes I would just stand there for a few minutes, some times longer. Then he'd hold out the card. When I reached for it, sometimes he'd pull it away and talk to me like I was child. He'd say "Did you make your list? Where are you going to shop? I need the receipt and don't forget, I can see all of the transactions online". Only after I answered EVERY question to his liking would I get that D**** CARD!!!! See...now I'm getting frustrated just THINKING about it!!! Sorry, I'm having a moment. I see the therapist tomorrow morning. I seriously need a good sit down. I NEED to recover from this for my kids sake. It's like I'm trying to dig myself out of this bottomless pit!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="paperplate, post: 578193, member: 15831"] Thanks everyone. Yeah, having to wait on him to get scripts makes me feel kinda lousy. Here's what happened this morning: 6 am, he calls and says he'll get lil ds8 script but I have only 'one chance to tell him what time the store is open' or he's not getting it. Then he calls back and tells me he will only bring it, IF I pull my car out of the garage and into the foot of snow, so he can pull in the garage and close the garage door before he gets out of the car. I said, wait....that's not fair DS8 is really sick, I need the car warm. He said, take it or leave it. The thing is, he knows the neighbors pretty much can't stand him. There are so many reasons why. Like every week I'd get 200$ worth of groceries. And if he was sitting in the garage, drinking a beer or something, they all watched him sit there, while I unloaded the car. Then they'd hear him yell about the 'slop' I bought, where's the receipt etc... And he actually blames ME for them not liking him! I can't tell you how many times I've been referred to as 'stupid', lazy, pig, ****** etc....So how is it MY fault that the neighbors don't like him???? Anyway, since lil DS8 HAD to have the prescriptions (he has the flu), I HAD to move my car to get them. Then he gave me his old cell (he bought himself an Iphone), he said I may use it temporarily and gave me a list a things I may NOT do with the phone?!?!?! UGH! So when my mom called, I let her know the deal & she is currently making calls to verizon to find me a phone that is MINE! She said husband can see who I talk to and read any messages if the phone is his. So basically, that's the situation right now. I can tell he is clearly trying to control the situation even from a distance but I'm SLOWLY getting out from under it. It justs seem like it's taking forever! I HATE begging him for anything. That's been the story of my life! My DS13 in many ways, his behavior towards me comes from a lack of respect. Ever since he was very small whatever he got for his birthday etc... He'd point out that I didn't buy it, Dad did. Whenever the kids need anything, they automatically say "do you think dad will give you any money? can you ask dad for some money?" etc....My favorite (NOT), about grocery day was this: He came home from work. Friday is grocery day. He'd sit at the computer and put his feet up. I'd say "Can I have the card now to go get the food", he'd say "When I'm ready I'll give it to you". Then he'd just sit there. Sometimes I would just stand there for a few minutes, some times longer. Then he'd hold out the card. When I reached for it, sometimes he'd pull it away and talk to me like I was child. He'd say "Did you make your list? Where are you going to shop? I need the receipt and don't forget, I can see all of the transactions online". Only after I answered EVERY question to his liking would I get that D**** CARD!!!! See...now I'm getting frustrated just THINKING about it!!! Sorry, I'm having a moment. I see the therapist tomorrow morning. I seriously need a good sit down. I NEED to recover from this for my kids sake. It's like I'm trying to dig myself out of this bottomless pit! [/QUOTE]
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