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<blockquote data-quote="crazymama30" data-source="post: 407327" data-attributes="member: 3184"><p>Star, I get what you are saying about the resentful when they get better piece. I have been there before when husband did better for a period of time. I have not had that happen this time, but it would not shock me if it came back. I completely and totally get the what did I do to deserve this? too. been there done that, have the book, and feel like I could write the book. And again? would I be shocked if it came back? Nooo, but at the same time I have worked through those feelings,those issues, so I feel more at peace with them. I tend to hang out in the waiting for the next shoe to fall territory, but this time I am different, I am not hanging out there. I know what my boundaries are, and I know what I will do if they get crossed. I think I am down to my last straw, so to speak. Saying that, I have decided that our future is at this point up to him, if he chooses to stay sober then we have a future. I have made him leave the house more times than I can count and have left him at the hospital (medical one) twice when he discharged himself ama or refused to follow the plan he had made with the docs. And you know what? Somehow I am ok with that. I am not angry or resentful yet (not so say I won't get that way). </p><p> </p><p>As for therapist? Do you think I would have survived this far without one? I have had one for years, on and off and I really do not think now is the time to stop. She has seen me through good and bad, and that won't stop. There is no way I would have made it through all of this half way sane without her.</p><p> </p><p>Time for myself???? Star honey, who are you kidding? husband aside, I have a very needy difficult child and a easy child who could be a difficult child, I have to schedule her to see the psychiatrist that difficult child sees. She and husband think she could be BiPolar (BP), and they could be right. I see a lot of anxiety and depression, but the manic signs are there too. It will be hard to accept a diagnosis for her, and I am glad and very fortunate to have a psychiatrist that I trust to give her a thorough evaluation. So we will see. easy child has been through 2 tdocs who came highly reccomended, and the first she said was nice, she just did not do anything. The second one? Was mean and kept looking at her watch during the session. She has decided that therapy is worthless and she does not need it. Nice huh? And to top it all off? husband went to the ER yesterday as he could not breathe, and was told he was having an asthma attack triggered by having bronchitis and pneumonia. They gave him a shot of what I suspect was a steroid, put him on prednisone (60mg a day, can you say wow, lookout for manic man?) and zithromax (which has never worked for him) so that has me a bit worried. He was already amped up last night, and I don't have much hope that it will get better. I just hope we can get through the course of prednisone without another hospitalization at psychiatric hospital. He did see psychiatrist yesterday after his ER trip, and psychiatrist upped his depakote from 500mg to 1000mg so maybe that will help to keep him in check, who knows.</p><p> </p><p>For now Starbie, I am going day by day. That is the only way I know how to survive.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="crazymama30, post: 407327, member: 3184"] Star, I get what you are saying about the resentful when they get better piece. I have been there before when husband did better for a period of time. I have not had that happen this time, but it would not shock me if it came back. I completely and totally get the what did I do to deserve this? too. been there done that, have the book, and feel like I could write the book. And again? would I be shocked if it came back? Nooo, but at the same time I have worked through those feelings,those issues, so I feel more at peace with them. I tend to hang out in the waiting for the next shoe to fall territory, but this time I am different, I am not hanging out there. I know what my boundaries are, and I know what I will do if they get crossed. I think I am down to my last straw, so to speak. Saying that, I have decided that our future is at this point up to him, if he chooses to stay sober then we have a future. I have made him leave the house more times than I can count and have left him at the hospital (medical one) twice when he discharged himself ama or refused to follow the plan he had made with the docs. And you know what? Somehow I am ok with that. I am not angry or resentful yet (not so say I won't get that way). As for therapist? Do you think I would have survived this far without one? I have had one for years, on and off and I really do not think now is the time to stop. She has seen me through good and bad, and that won't stop. There is no way I would have made it through all of this half way sane without her. Time for myself???? Star honey, who are you kidding? husband aside, I have a very needy difficult child and a easy child who could be a difficult child, I have to schedule her to see the psychiatrist that difficult child sees. She and husband think she could be BiPolar (BP), and they could be right. I see a lot of anxiety and depression, but the manic signs are there too. It will be hard to accept a diagnosis for her, and I am glad and very fortunate to have a psychiatrist that I trust to give her a thorough evaluation. So we will see. easy child has been through 2 tdocs who came highly reccomended, and the first she said was nice, she just did not do anything. The second one? Was mean and kept looking at her watch during the session. She has decided that therapy is worthless and she does not need it. Nice huh? And to top it all off? husband went to the ER yesterday as he could not breathe, and was told he was having an asthma attack triggered by having bronchitis and pneumonia. They gave him a shot of what I suspect was a steroid, put him on prednisone (60mg a day, can you say wow, lookout for manic man?) and zithromax (which has never worked for him) so that has me a bit worried. He was already amped up last night, and I don't have much hope that it will get better. I just hope we can get through the course of prednisone without another hospitalization at psychiatric hospital. He did see psychiatrist yesterday after his ER trip, and psychiatrist upped his depakote from 500mg to 1000mg so maybe that will help to keep him in check, who knows. For now Starbie, I am going day by day. That is the only way I know how to survive. [/QUOTE]
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