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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 222743" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well if you go to the group home from hades the agency sent Dude to? You put a logging chain around the fridge. (yes they did) and a padlock complete with hasp. </p><p> </p><p>These are easy fixes to this situation AND you are right - there is BOUND to be some rebelling about the newness of this all - as Mom's when we hear this it's like "OMG I cant' belive this - I'm so upset." and when the staff calls you it's like "Okay I HAVE to report this or else it's my job." and that's the jist of it. </p><p> </p><p>We take it personally - because we would be okay really - if they would just go live somewhere else and the staff call and say "Well he's here, and he's doing fine, have no idea what went on at your house, must be you guys." and even though that would be a bitter pill to swallow? It doesn't happen hardly at all. If ever. I didn't care who Dude lived with as long as he was happy - I'd gladly butt out totally. Never the case. Yes, I'd tell staff the "things" about Dude and I could have told the toaster in the breakroom the same dang things and the toaster would have at least listenened." </p><p> </p><p>You can ALSO tell staff - "We are trying to detach and heal from the emotional turmoil our son being her and now not being here has caused, so unless it's something like a 911 call - please just handle it, do your job and we'll visit as scheduled." </p><p> </p><p>THAT was the biggest lifesaver for us. DETACHMENT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 222743, member: 4964"] Well if you go to the group home from hades the agency sent Dude to? You put a logging chain around the fridge. (yes they did) and a padlock complete with hasp. These are easy fixes to this situation AND you are right - there is BOUND to be some rebelling about the newness of this all - as Mom's when we hear this it's like "OMG I cant' belive this - I'm so upset." and when the staff calls you it's like "Okay I HAVE to report this or else it's my job." and that's the jist of it. We take it personally - because we would be okay really - if they would just go live somewhere else and the staff call and say "Well he's here, and he's doing fine, have no idea what went on at your house, must be you guys." and even though that would be a bitter pill to swallow? It doesn't happen hardly at all. If ever. I didn't care who Dude lived with as long as he was happy - I'd gladly butt out totally. Never the case. Yes, I'd tell staff the "things" about Dude and I could have told the toaster in the breakroom the same dang things and the toaster would have at least listenened." You can ALSO tell staff - "We are trying to detach and heal from the emotional turmoil our son being her and now not being here has caused, so unless it's something like a 911 call - please just handle it, do your job and we'll visit as scheduled." THAT was the biggest lifesaver for us. DETACHMENT. [/QUOTE]
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