Three months ago he hadn't washed dishes, helped around the house, wasn't bothering to do his own laundry, didn't clean his room. Basically was a lump in the bedroom, attached to his xbox and laptop computer. Now all I hear in his daily phone calls (yes he calls each day! I look forward to the calls) about how they've worked out the budget for the new deck, the new roof they are getting put on, his work to tame the property that overgrew for 5 years with the previous owner. He calls from the parking lot of the hardware store with questions for S/O before he picks things up in there. He's nearly finished painting the inside of the house. They've pretty much bought new furnishings for the entire house (3 bedrooms, 3 stories) so now he's a interior designer instead of the kid who decorated his room a few months back with empty take out coffee cups, empty pop cans and empty energy drink cans. Constant updates on job opportunities and the first aid course for the oil fields he has coming up this week. Talks about his career counselling thing at the local college (narrowed it to geology, forestry or engineering it sounds like). He's getting very adept at driving and here I fought him from age 16-18 and he wouldn't go write for his license. Finally convinced him to go a week before he moved out, told him he need ID (*wink*). Now he's working with his g/f's uncle to get a truck on the road for himself. He's a entirely different young man. It's wonderful to hear him enthused and motivated and hopeful and looking forward with optimism. Haven't heard a pessimistic word from his mouth since he left, when even though he had crossed into easy child land, he remained very difficult child about making any plans or having a positive attitude about many things. I can't wait to go visit him and see him in a element that suits him and has enhanced his personality instead of stifling it. He was very stifled living in this city because he was determined to not remain here so cut ties to all outside the house.