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<blockquote data-quote="Rotsne" data-source="post: 235266" data-attributes="member: 6326"><p>Of course not just by forcing him into the situation. It would violate him as his victim was that is not what the purpose should be. It should be done with a conversation talking about every step about the psychology about engaging in such "games". He needs to understand the value of stopwords and take no for a no.</p><p></p><p>Generally we should always respect when a person says no even if we think that this individual could benefit from our intervention. A lot of the confrontation therapy used in modern therapy can be compared with acts in this kind of personal relationship. It is about pushing borders at a certain person. A lot of people have been hurt because a "Stopword" was not respected by the therapist or the group in group therapy.</p><p></p><p>At an international known residential treatment center in Mexico, which closed in 2004 they called a 12 year old girl "****" because they wanted to force her out of the victim role caused by abuse by the girls father. Could this benefit the girl? I dont think so.</p><p></p><p>We can imaging a number of situations where we should consider the mindset of the client.</p><p></p><p>What are a person thinking when he is standing on a table being told just to fall back in a belief that someone are there to catch him? What are a person thinking when a therapist orders a gorge jumping into a dark lake? Have any participated in high rope courses where all is about moving borders?</p><p></p><p>Her son failed to listen to his victim. While it is inappropriate to force himself on a family member the next girl could be one down the street. He needs to be pushed and say no and learn that people listen because they can understand his feelings. How is he going to understand this unless he is put in a situation where he is forced to say no and learn how it benefits him when people listen to him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rotsne, post: 235266, member: 6326"] Of course not just by forcing him into the situation. It would violate him as his victim was that is not what the purpose should be. It should be done with a conversation talking about every step about the psychology about engaging in such "games". He needs to understand the value of stopwords and take no for a no. Generally we should always respect when a person says no even if we think that this individual could benefit from our intervention. A lot of the confrontation therapy used in modern therapy can be compared with acts in this kind of personal relationship. It is about pushing borders at a certain person. A lot of people have been hurt because a "Stopword" was not respected by the therapist or the group in group therapy. At an international known residential treatment center in Mexico, which closed in 2004 they called a 12 year old girl "****" because they wanted to force her out of the victim role caused by abuse by the girls father. Could this benefit the girl? I dont think so. We can imaging a number of situations where we should consider the mindset of the client. What are a person thinking when he is standing on a table being told just to fall back in a belief that someone are there to catch him? What are a person thinking when a therapist orders a gorge jumping into a dark lake? Have any participated in high rope courses where all is about moving borders? Her son failed to listen to his victim. While it is inappropriate to force himself on a family member the next girl could be one down the street. He needs to be pushed and say no and learn that people listen because they can understand his feelings. How is he going to understand this unless he is put in a situation where he is forced to say no and learn how it benefits him when people listen to him? [/QUOTE]
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