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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 86092" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Thanks Chele. At this point (for us), I don't know if there's any planning to be done. He's already at the "you're on your way out" stage, by his own choice and reinforced by wife. I don't see that changing unless a miracle happens or wife tosses the rulebook out to keep him home - and threatens me with a divorce (or worse) if I interfere.</p><p></p><p>If he leaves under these circumstances, he leaves with what he can carry that he owns. Again, unless there's a major blowout with wife involving sharp or exploding objects, I don't see this changing; If I'm not going to support his acting out at home (where we at least have the <em>illusion</em> of control), why would I pay a dime to support his living somewhere else where he can act out without restraint?</p><p></p><p>I think the only thing I may offer is to continue carrying him on my medical insurance, but even that's dicey if he's not a full-time student, and/or if he's no longer considered my dependent. My company has been pretty hard-core lately about proving that an "adult" dependent is eligible for insurance under their plan.</p><p></p><p>I certainly hope that your proactive planning works out for you and your SO. For us, though, I fear that it's time to call in the Hospice team - no other options left, other than that hoped-for miracle.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again, and good luck to you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 86092, member: 3579"] Thanks Chele. At this point (for us), I don't know if there's any planning to be done. He's already at the "you're on your way out" stage, by his own choice and reinforced by wife. I don't see that changing unless a miracle happens or wife tosses the rulebook out to keep him home - and threatens me with a divorce (or worse) if I interfere. If he leaves under these circumstances, he leaves with what he can carry that he owns. Again, unless there's a major blowout with wife involving sharp or exploding objects, I don't see this changing; If I'm not going to support his acting out at home (where we at least have the [i]illusion[/i] of control), why would I pay a dime to support his living somewhere else where he can act out without restraint? I think the only thing I may offer is to continue carrying him on my medical insurance, but even that's dicey if he's not a full-time student, and/or if he's no longer considered my dependent. My company has been pretty hard-core lately about proving that an "adult" dependent is eligible for insurance under their plan. I certainly hope that your proactive planning works out for you and your SO. For us, though, I fear that it's time to call in the Hospice team - no other options left, other than that hoped-for miracle. Thanks again, and good luck to you and your family. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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