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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 88932" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I admire that you haven't just said..."Then have at it!!" and walked away. I would be very tempted.... </div></div></p><p></p><p>Don't think I <em>haven't</em> been tempted. The only two reasons I haven't caved in and walked, or turned into a walking zombie in the house are:</p><p></p><p>(a) Even though this is bad, this isn't the worst thing wife and I have been through, and it'll be a cold day in Hades before I give up on her and our relationship (even if it means treating my own son like a meddlesome, invasive pest), and </p><p></p><p>(b) For three generations back, Every male member of my family has been <strong>full</strong> of bravado (amongst other "substances"); and every single one of them has found a way to walk out on his family, leaving the wife/mother to deal with the mess. I can see how well <em>that</em> worked out, with so many of my family either dead, permanantly health-damaged, incarcerated, or some combination therof because dear ole Dad walked out when the going got tough.</p><p></p><p>Not me. I don't care if I end up castrated, lobotomized, and permanently quadraplegic. I will NOT walk away from my family, even if I end up as the odd man out. Hard as it may be, and even though I sometimes wonder aloud about leaving, I'll never do it because it would doom another generation to chaos and anarchy when they need structure.</p><p></p><p>I may wonder about leaving, but I wonder more what my family might have been like if <strong>just one male</strong> had stood up and said "this isn't right, it's not good for me, and it's really bad for my family, and it has to stop NOW!". Just <em>one</em> person making the effort - what might our life be like now?</p><p></p><p>That's what I wonder about. And for now, no matter how hard it gets, and no matter how much I may think about giving up, I'm still that Type-A male whose last name ends in a vowel. For once in this family, <strong>someone</strong> is going to take a stand. I won't be an inflexible wall, but I also won't being the family version of the Maginot line (fake wall that's easily defeated).</p><p></p><p>There's too much worth fighting for.</p><p></p><p>Okay, end of rant.</p><p></p><p>Mike</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 88932, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> I admire that you haven't just said..."Then have at it!!" and walked away. I would be very tempted.... </div></div> Don't think I [i]haven't[/i] been tempted. The only two reasons I haven't caved in and walked, or turned into a walking zombie in the house are: (a) Even though this is bad, this isn't the worst thing wife and I have been through, and it'll be a cold day in Hades before I give up on her and our relationship (even if it means treating my own son like a meddlesome, invasive pest), and (b) For three generations back, Every male member of my family has been [b]full[/b] of bravado (amongst other "substances"); and every single one of them has found a way to walk out on his family, leaving the wife/mother to deal with the mess. I can see how well [i]that[/i] worked out, with so many of my family either dead, permanantly health-damaged, incarcerated, or some combination therof because dear ole Dad walked out when the going got tough. Not me. I don't care if I end up castrated, lobotomized, and permanently quadraplegic. I will NOT walk away from my family, even if I end up as the odd man out. Hard as it may be, and even though I sometimes wonder aloud about leaving, I'll never do it because it would doom another generation to chaos and anarchy when they need structure. I may wonder about leaving, but I wonder more what my family might have been like if [b]just one male[/b] had stood up and said "this isn't right, it's not good for me, and it's really bad for my family, and it has to stop NOW!". Just [i]one[/i] person making the effort - what might our life be like now? That's what I wonder about. And for now, no matter how hard it gets, and no matter how much I may think about giving up, I'm still that Type-A male whose last name ends in a vowel. For once in this family, [b]someone[/b] is going to take a stand. I won't be an inflexible wall, but I also won't being the family version of the Maginot line (fake wall that's easily defeated). There's too much worth fighting for. Okay, end of rant. Mike [/QUOTE]
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