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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 247406" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I know that you respect my opinion so don't be concerned that you are hurting my feelings. I'm on your team. Really.</p><p> </p><p>What I was trying to point out is that focusing on her incompetence (and I completely agree that she is not only incompetent but also dangerous to your child's future) "seemed" to be more of your focus than getting your son the right care. There is absolutely NO doubt that you want what is best for your son. None. Nada. Zip. <em>BUT </em>you will not be able to demean the PO and or the "system" to your advantage or your son's.</p><p> </p><p>You have documentation on what your son needs. You have experts who agree with your assessment. You have done a dynamite job of advocating AND coping with unbelievable stress. You can disagree if you have the opportunity to respond to the recommendations of the PO. I am almost positive (I'd bet the bank if I still had a bank, lol) that your focus can not be trying in Court to identify her as incompetent or insensitive or anything specifically negative (such as ignorant or uninformed). </p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure what the format is for court on Monday. From my experience there often is NO format. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> on the other hand I completely know from my experiences with PO's and attorneys and judges (and as a former GAL) that if you opt to "attack" (and that is what it will seem to be) a member or division of "the system" there will be a rally to that idiot's defense. I don't want you to be seen as an enemy of the system as it will bite you and your son.</p><p> </p><p>Tell the truth. Utilize the experts who support you. Don't divert your focus from your son's future any more than is necessary. Do not say "I can not work with Ms. X or Mr. Y" because that will mean you are not a team player.........and "the system" wants to believe we are all on one team. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 247406, member: 35"] I know that you respect my opinion so don't be concerned that you are hurting my feelings. I'm on your team. Really. What I was trying to point out is that focusing on her incompetence (and I completely agree that she is not only incompetent but also dangerous to your child's future) "seemed" to be more of your focus than getting your son the right care. There is absolutely NO doubt that you want what is best for your son. None. Nada. Zip. [I]BUT [/I]you will not be able to demean the PO and or the "system" to your advantage or your son's. You have documentation on what your son needs. You have experts who agree with your assessment. You have done a dynamite job of advocating AND coping with unbelievable stress. You can disagree if you have the opportunity to respond to the recommendations of the PO. I am almost positive (I'd bet the bank if I still had a bank, lol) that your focus can not be trying in Court to identify her as incompetent or insensitive or anything specifically negative (such as ignorant or uninformed). I'm not sure what the format is for court on Monday. From my experience there often is NO format. :frowny: on the other hand I completely know from my experiences with PO's and attorneys and judges (and as a former GAL) that if you opt to "attack" (and that is what it will seem to be) a member or division of "the system" there will be a rally to that idiot's defense. I don't want you to be seen as an enemy of the system as it will bite you and your son. Tell the truth. Utilize the experts who support you. Don't divert your focus from your son's future any more than is necessary. Do not say "I can not work with Ms. X or Mr. Y" because that will mean you are not a team player.........and "the system" wants to believe we are all on one team. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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