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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 247410" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Oh- now I see where you are coming from. I'm sorry- I didn't take it that way before. I agree that I can't go in there accusing anyone or blaming or attacking. I guess I'm thinking that I will be on the stand and as we (Me, GAL, defense attny) know that each other are advocating for difficult child's mental health treatment, that the things that lead up to this latest illegal activity will have to be discussed. I'm assuming that the next obvious question will be "why didn't someone stop things or get help before things got to this point". I don't mean that specific evening, because we weren't arguing or having a dispute about homework or anything like that when difficult child did what he did.</p><p></p><p>I guess I'm just venting. I did already relay some of the specifics to the CA- to let her know that I want difficult child to earn his way home and be off probation when he comes home, or at least have PO switched. Otherwise, he will not be welcome back home. I love him and will never leave his life or turn my back on him and will do what I can to stay involved and participate in his therapy/family therapy, or whatever else might be appropriate. </p><p></p><p>I plan to list out potential questions that I might get while on the stand tomorrow evening and write out appropriate responses to them so that I might handle it in a good way. When I testified last year, the GAL was questioning me and she kept going into more and more detail that I was not at all prepared for. I thought we were just going to cover the therapy recommended for difficult child, his MDE, etc. But she covered my relationships throughout my life, my childhood, my family, difficult child's father, everything. </p><p></p><p>Then, she was asking about people in difficult child's life now and the system and what was my opinion about the safety net for kids now, etc. (I was sexually abused by a family member as a teen and then got on drugs, entered an abusive marriage and fought my way out of it by going behind people's back and joining the military at 18 yo, weighing about 80 pounds, and then deliberately got myself into military trouble in order to get to a certain treatment/therapist who could and did help me turn my life around.) So, the GAL and judge were interested in what worked and didn't work for me and how the safety net played into things- or didn't play into things. </p><p></p><p>Well, I was somewhat respectful, but I basicly listed how the system failed and included how the GAL and system in general had failed my son. I apologized, but pointed out that she was assigned to open doors to more help and that's how he got the CHINS but that she had not done one single thing to get my son help or even point me in a better direction. All I know is that the judge looked royally mad and kept GAL in the courtroom after the rest of us left. Before we left though, the judge put PO on the stand and asked her what her problem was with what I was saying. It ended up with the judge rolling her eyes at the PO. Of course, we (none of us) have ever gotten into any of this with difficult child in the room- and it would not be appropriate.</p><p></p><p>The judge typed a whole lot on her personal computer the last half of my testimony last year. Of course, I have no idea what she typed but at one point, I said "your Honor, you might decide that I'm an unfit parent...". She cut me off and said "I am not going to do that". So, I definitely don't think that gives me or difficult child a free ticket to anything but I hope she typed enough or remembers enough that she knows I'm just trying to be a "warrior mom" and that sometimes the system doesn't work as well as it should.</p><p></p><p>I'm writing too much about this. LOL!! Thank you, DDD, if you made it through another long post, for clarifying what you meant. I vent here sometimes so I can be composed when I'm in front of people who make me nervous. I'll try to do better. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 247410, member: 3699"] Oh- now I see where you are coming from. I'm sorry- I didn't take it that way before. I agree that I can't go in there accusing anyone or blaming or attacking. I guess I'm thinking that I will be on the stand and as we (Me, GAL, defense attny) know that each other are advocating for difficult child's mental health treatment, that the things that lead up to this latest illegal activity will have to be discussed. I'm assuming that the next obvious question will be "why didn't someone stop things or get help before things got to this point". I don't mean that specific evening, because we weren't arguing or having a dispute about homework or anything like that when difficult child did what he did. I guess I'm just venting. I did already relay some of the specifics to the CA- to let her know that I want difficult child to earn his way home and be off probation when he comes home, or at least have PO switched. Otherwise, he will not be welcome back home. I love him and will never leave his life or turn my back on him and will do what I can to stay involved and participate in his therapy/family therapy, or whatever else might be appropriate. I plan to list out potential questions that I might get while on the stand tomorrow evening and write out appropriate responses to them so that I might handle it in a good way. When I testified last year, the GAL was questioning me and she kept going into more and more detail that I was not at all prepared for. I thought we were just going to cover the therapy recommended for difficult child, his MDE, etc. But she covered my relationships throughout my life, my childhood, my family, difficult child's father, everything. Then, she was asking about people in difficult child's life now and the system and what was my opinion about the safety net for kids now, etc. (I was sexually abused by a family member as a teen and then got on drugs, entered an abusive marriage and fought my way out of it by going behind people's back and joining the military at 18 yo, weighing about 80 pounds, and then deliberately got myself into military trouble in order to get to a certain treatment/therapist who could and did help me turn my life around.) So, the GAL and judge were interested in what worked and didn't work for me and how the safety net played into things- or didn't play into things. Well, I was somewhat respectful, but I basicly listed how the system failed and included how the GAL and system in general had failed my son. I apologized, but pointed out that she was assigned to open doors to more help and that's how he got the CHINS but that she had not done one single thing to get my son help or even point me in a better direction. All I know is that the judge looked royally mad and kept GAL in the courtroom after the rest of us left. Before we left though, the judge put PO on the stand and asked her what her problem was with what I was saying. It ended up with the judge rolling her eyes at the PO. Of course, we (none of us) have ever gotten into any of this with difficult child in the room- and it would not be appropriate. The judge typed a whole lot on her personal computer the last half of my testimony last year. Of course, I have no idea what she typed but at one point, I said "your Honor, you might decide that I'm an unfit parent...". She cut me off and said "I am not going to do that". So, I definitely don't think that gives me or difficult child a free ticket to anything but I hope she typed enough or remembers enough that she knows I'm just trying to be a "warrior mom" and that sometimes the system doesn't work as well as it should. I'm writing too much about this. LOL!! Thank you, DDD, if you made it through another long post, for clarifying what you meant. I vent here sometimes so I can be composed when I'm in front of people who make me nervous. I'll try to do better. :) [/QUOTE]
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