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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 353694" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>klmno - I have to agree with Sharon - your son isn't a typical teen and under the circumstances, I wouldn't chalk anything up to typical teen behavior. He violates your trust every chance he gets, and then some.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I'd call the ROTC instructor and get the facts about this alleged field trip and if difficult child went or not. If not, I'd want to know why. I'd also call school to verify he even showed this morning.</p><p></p><p>I understand your anger. Can't tell you how many times I allowed myself to hope that thank you was turning things around, only to get clobbered with irrefutable evidence that he was just pulling the wool over everyone's eyes. I was 100 times more angry with myself than I was with him. You know that old saying, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? Well, around here, it's fool me for the gazillionth time, how dumb can I be and *when* will I ever learn. We want to trust our kids and believe the things that they tell us, but they give us absolutely no reason to do so. It always cracks me up when thank you whines "You don't trust me". Gee, ya' think? He's dug himself such a deep pit in the trust department, I honestly am not sure I'll ever trust him again.</p><p></p><p>I've told all my kids, trust is freely given the first time around. If you violate it, it's 10 times harder to earn it back. As a detached observer, it doesn't seem like your son has any interest in *truly* re-earning your trust. If he thinks he can do it by saying all the right things and feigning remorse, great. But if it involves following thru with his actions.... well, he just doesn't seem terribly interested.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry he's giving you such a run for your money. I have to agree with Crazy - don't even think about trying to figure out what's going on in their brains because logic and cause/effect just don't apply.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 353694, member: 8"] klmno - I have to agree with Sharon - your son isn't a typical teen and under the circumstances, I wouldn't chalk anything up to typical teen behavior. He violates your trust every chance he gets, and then some. Personally, I'd call the ROTC instructor and get the facts about this alleged field trip and if difficult child went or not. If not, I'd want to know why. I'd also call school to verify he even showed this morning. I understand your anger. Can't tell you how many times I allowed myself to hope that thank you was turning things around, only to get clobbered with irrefutable evidence that he was just pulling the wool over everyone's eyes. I was 100 times more angry with myself than I was with him. You know that old saying, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? Well, around here, it's fool me for the gazillionth time, how dumb can I be and *when* will I ever learn. We want to trust our kids and believe the things that they tell us, but they give us absolutely no reason to do so. It always cracks me up when thank you whines "You don't trust me". Gee, ya' think? He's dug himself such a deep pit in the trust department, I honestly am not sure I'll ever trust him again. I've told all my kids, trust is freely given the first time around. If you violate it, it's 10 times harder to earn it back. As a detached observer, it doesn't seem like your son has any interest in *truly* re-earning your trust. If he thinks he can do it by saying all the right things and feigning remorse, great. But if it involves following thru with his actions.... well, he just doesn't seem terribly interested. I'm so sorry he's giving you such a run for your money. I have to agree with Crazy - don't even think about trying to figure out what's going on in their brains because logic and cause/effect just don't apply. [/QUOTE]
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