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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 58408" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Hi! Oh, I feel so sorry for you! We were going through the same thing with ours FOREVER!!! From the age of 2 when it started and every day up until about 5-6 mos. ago. I had this major catharsis. Enough was enough. I didn't like who I had become with not only difficult child 1 but with difficult child 2 and easy child (still not sure if difficult child 3). </p><p></p><p>I got even. I refused to react. I answered everything quietly, matter-of-factly and without any kind of emotion what so ever for about a week. My husband thought I'd lost my marbles (I was even answering HIM the same way!!!). I have to admit, it set difficult child off a little more at first, but then he started realizing that I refused to let him get under my skin (which, I have to admit - was getting under HIS skin - which, I have to admit - was giving me a certain amount of smug satisfaction). :bravo:</p><p></p><p>The basis of thought was: I was reacting to his "inappropriateness" inappropriately. If I scream & yell, how's that showing him the right way to handle stress, pressure, anger, embarassment, etc? So, mellow was key!</p><p></p><p>Keep in mind (although I'm a diabetic) this tactic works best with one of those Haagen Dazs bars that's dipped in dark chocolate at the end of the day! </p><p></p><p>Hugs from here!</p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 58408, member: 3814"] Hi! Oh, I feel so sorry for you! We were going through the same thing with ours FOREVER!!! From the age of 2 when it started and every day up until about 5-6 mos. ago. I had this major catharsis. Enough was enough. I didn't like who I had become with not only difficult child 1 but with difficult child 2 and easy child (still not sure if difficult child 3). I got even. I refused to react. I answered everything quietly, matter-of-factly and without any kind of emotion what so ever for about a week. My husband thought I'd lost my marbles (I was even answering HIM the same way!!!). I have to admit, it set difficult child off a little more at first, but then he started realizing that I refused to let him get under my skin (which, I have to admit - was getting under HIS skin - which, I have to admit - was giving me a certain amount of smug satisfaction). [img]:bravo:[/img] The basis of thought was: I was reacting to his "inappropriateness" inappropriately. If I scream & yell, how's that showing him the right way to handle stress, pressure, anger, embarassment, etc? So, mellow was key! Keep in mind (although I'm a diabetic) this tactic works best with one of those Haagen Dazs bars that's dipped in dark chocolate at the end of the day! Hugs from here! Beth [/QUOTE]
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