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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 350212" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hey Bootsie, </p><p> </p><p>Well guess what? NOW you see what the rest of the world see's your son as. A FULL GROWN MAN. Isn't that nice? Now all you have to do is catch up. (insert rolling eyes and groan sound) In all fairness to him? THIS IS reality. THIS IS the world as it is. THIS IS the result of choices he has made. This is basically the spoils of his labors. As a Mother? You don't want to hear any of that because you're still in fight mode. You want the world to understand nae - APPRECIATE that your son has a disability still - and accept him like you do. Wellll? The world has spoken and it slapped you down, and said "Hi Mother of a grown man - this is how we intend on handling your son and his problems from here on out. No more leading him by the hand, no more talking nice, no more second chances or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it's big boy britches time and your kid had better be ready to put his on one leg at a time just like the rest of the world." - And you? You don't get to help him at all. </p><p> </p><p>Nope, you have to sit back and watch him fall now. You can't run to help, you can offer assistance, you can't stand up for him. Now is when you get to sit home and get the phone calls, and decide - Do we GO to the jail and bail him out or let him set there? Do we GO to the hospital and talk to him before he goes to the jail? Or do we make a stand and stay home and let him realize he HAD family that stood by him and he threw us away? Now is the time where you stop answering the phone and stop feeling guilty because caller ID said it was HIM calling - it's raining outside and he MIGHT be calling from a pay phone, cold, hungry and lonely then realize it's his choice - and go back to the den, finish your movie by the fire and curl up with your dogs and really and truly forget about that call, or unplug the phone. Now is the time when Lowes or Home Depot LOVES to see you coming because their stock in locks has gone up 12 points thanks to the CD board alone. Now is the time dear.....when you do whatever you can, take whatever medication you can, hang on to whatever good memories you have, cry whenever you need to, get ANGRY whenever you want to, and share with your friends whenever the mood strikes you - that YOU WERE a Mom, and now? You're someones Mother, but he doesn't live here anymore. Doesn't mean you don't care. Just means you're on another part of the journey you and him started out on 17 years ago as Mother and son. </p><p> </p><p>~ It won't always be like this. Someday you'll be old and forget all about this part. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs and Love - been there done that - have the mended up broken heart to prove it. </p><p>Starbie, the old toybox barbie. You know the one with the hair cut short and no clothes on that got left in the bottom of the toybox...but used to be your favorite and will be some day again? (If I can only keep this figure)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 350212, member: 4964"] Hey Bootsie, Well guess what? NOW you see what the rest of the world see's your son as. A FULL GROWN MAN. Isn't that nice? Now all you have to do is catch up. (insert rolling eyes and groan sound) In all fairness to him? THIS IS reality. THIS IS the world as it is. THIS IS the result of choices he has made. This is basically the spoils of his labors. As a Mother? You don't want to hear any of that because you're still in fight mode. You want the world to understand nae - APPRECIATE that your son has a disability still - and accept him like you do. Wellll? The world has spoken and it slapped you down, and said "Hi Mother of a grown man - this is how we intend on handling your son and his problems from here on out. No more leading him by the hand, no more talking nice, no more second chances or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it's big boy britches time and your kid had better be ready to put his on one leg at a time just like the rest of the world." - And you? You don't get to help him at all. Nope, you have to sit back and watch him fall now. You can't run to help, you can offer assistance, you can't stand up for him. Now is when you get to sit home and get the phone calls, and decide - Do we GO to the jail and bail him out or let him set there? Do we GO to the hospital and talk to him before he goes to the jail? Or do we make a stand and stay home and let him realize he HAD family that stood by him and he threw us away? Now is the time where you stop answering the phone and stop feeling guilty because caller ID said it was HIM calling - it's raining outside and he MIGHT be calling from a pay phone, cold, hungry and lonely then realize it's his choice - and go back to the den, finish your movie by the fire and curl up with your dogs and really and truly forget about that call, or unplug the phone. Now is the time when Lowes or Home Depot LOVES to see you coming because their stock in locks has gone up 12 points thanks to the CD board alone. Now is the time dear.....when you do whatever you can, take whatever medication you can, hang on to whatever good memories you have, cry whenever you need to, get ANGRY whenever you want to, and share with your friends whenever the mood strikes you - that YOU WERE a Mom, and now? You're someones Mother, but he doesn't live here anymore. Doesn't mean you don't care. Just means you're on another part of the journey you and him started out on 17 years ago as Mother and son. ~ It won't always be like this. Someday you'll be old and forget all about this part. :raspberry-tounge: Hugs and Love - been there done that - have the mended up broken heart to prove it. Starbie, the old toybox barbie. You know the one with the hair cut short and no clothes on that got left in the bottom of the toybox...but used to be your favorite and will be some day again? (If I can only keep this figure) [/QUOTE]
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