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<blockquote data-quote="Truthsong" data-source="post: 400633"><p>I'm sorry you're having to deal with this situation. It sounds like this might be coming from a place of lost communications. If he's hiding things from you and you are taking up that battle cry by spying back, then it's understandable how that can go downhill really fast. I don't say that as a judgment, but as an observation of how things might have gotten to this point. </p><p></p><p>What he's doing is frustrating, I know. And it doesn't help that this woman he's in contact with is referring to you in very rude ways. Likely, that's to do with the way he talks to her about you. So to me, that says he's got issues he has no idea how else to resolve. And in most situations like this, both sides have very reasonable explanations for why they are doing or have done certain things. But the bottom line is that this break-down in communication between the two of you has caused a rift. If you want to salvage your relationship, then perhaps the best thing for you to do is to approach him without anger or anything and tell him you know what he's been doing. Tell him that you want to talk about it and work things out, and that you'd like to do so with the help of a marriage counselor. Avoid talking about the particulars until you are in the counselor's office so that you can be sure you'll each be heard and that the conversation won't devolve into an argument which could easily escalate in a bad way. </p><p></p><p>At this point, it's important to understand that placing blame is not the answer. Chances are, you both have plenty to throw around. What matters is that you get to the heart of the problem and a marriage counselor will be able to help you to do that. </p><p></p><p>I hope for the best for you both. For the sake of your marriage and your family. </p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Truthsong, post: 400633"] I'm sorry you're having to deal with this situation. It sounds like this might be coming from a place of lost communications. If he's hiding things from you and you are taking up that battle cry by spying back, then it's understandable how that can go downhill really fast. I don't say that as a judgment, but as an observation of how things might have gotten to this point. What he's doing is frustrating, I know. And it doesn't help that this woman he's in contact with is referring to you in very rude ways. Likely, that's to do with the way he talks to her about you. So to me, that says he's got issues he has no idea how else to resolve. And in most situations like this, both sides have very reasonable explanations for why they are doing or have done certain things. But the bottom line is that this break-down in communication between the two of you has caused a rift. If you want to salvage your relationship, then perhaps the best thing for you to do is to approach him without anger or anything and tell him you know what he's been doing. Tell him that you want to talk about it and work things out, and that you'd like to do so with the help of a marriage counselor. Avoid talking about the particulars until you are in the counselor's office so that you can be sure you'll each be heard and that the conversation won't devolve into an argument which could easily escalate in a bad way. At this point, it's important to understand that placing blame is not the answer. Chances are, you both have plenty to throw around. What matters is that you get to the heart of the problem and a marriage counselor will be able to help you to do that. I hope for the best for you both. For the sake of your marriage and your family. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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