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firehorsewoman
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Have any of you videotaped your difficult child's behaviors? If so do you use these videos to share with doctors? I am conflicted about this. I have said many times that I am going to videotape my difficult child but then feel like I am violating him somehow if I do. BUT...I just don't think the doctors can appreciate how he behaves without seeing it for themselves.
Tonight was the first time I have ever videotaped him. He has an intake appointment with a new psychology group and his regular psychiatry appointment both later this week. I want to have something to show them being that he is so quiet and subdued at the psychiatry appointments. I don't know how he will react to the psychology group since it has been a couple years since we have tried that route. When he was much younger he attended a therapy program where they were able to see many of his troubling behaviors. But he was much younger then and not able to hold it together at all.
difficult child has been on a horrible emotional roller coaster all week long....roller coaster rides are pretty typical for him but this week he was on the big "E" ticket ride. One minute he is climbing on the furniture, singing inappropriate songs, laughing hysterically and the next he is crying his head off and talking nothing but doom and gloom. I really don't know what is more troubling at this point....his:
>extreme hyperactivity followed by depression
>very vulgar cursing, yelling and screaming, hitting, throwing things
> defiance, purposeful annoyance of others
>saying and singing sexually inappropriate things "I stuck my penis in a hot girl" "My girlfriend (girl from school) has a nice smooth butt and we touch each other's butts all of the time" "Sexy Roberto eating a burrito in a Jacuzzi" many times singing/saying these things while taking his clothes off...several times just today.
>hysterically crying and telling me things like, his father and I are not his real parents, that we are his foster parents and that his baby photos are fake or pictures of his sister that we are trying to pass off as him. Telling me he hates his stepmother. Telling me that easy child has ruined his life. Telling me that we don't spend enough time with him or do what he wants us to do. Telling me he will behave if other people stop irritating him.
> saying that he wants to die, saying that he wants someone to kill him
etc, etc, etc
All of the above happened in the span of two hours or less. Add in all the time calming him down, talking, hugging and I am worn out.
I was not able to get much video because during much of the meltdown difficult child was not wearing clothing. But I did capture some of it with him under his blanket. He says that it is embarrassing that I am taping him. He stopped the behaviors after about 5 minutes of video. He told me that he will purposely act calm if I try to videotape him again. I told him that was fine by me. A peaceful solution is all I am asking for and I would rather have peaceful videos of him anyway. Once he figured it out that I was not going to stop videotaping he calmed down. So far so good tonight but I am still conflicted about taping him. It seems so violating in a way. Am I totally messed up about this?
Tonight was the first time I have ever videotaped him. He has an intake appointment with a new psychology group and his regular psychiatry appointment both later this week. I want to have something to show them being that he is so quiet and subdued at the psychiatry appointments. I don't know how he will react to the psychology group since it has been a couple years since we have tried that route. When he was much younger he attended a therapy program where they were able to see many of his troubling behaviors. But he was much younger then and not able to hold it together at all.
difficult child has been on a horrible emotional roller coaster all week long....roller coaster rides are pretty typical for him but this week he was on the big "E" ticket ride. One minute he is climbing on the furniture, singing inappropriate songs, laughing hysterically and the next he is crying his head off and talking nothing but doom and gloom. I really don't know what is more troubling at this point....his:
>extreme hyperactivity followed by depression
>very vulgar cursing, yelling and screaming, hitting, throwing things
> defiance, purposeful annoyance of others
>saying and singing sexually inappropriate things "I stuck my penis in a hot girl" "My girlfriend (girl from school) has a nice smooth butt and we touch each other's butts all of the time" "Sexy Roberto eating a burrito in a Jacuzzi" many times singing/saying these things while taking his clothes off...several times just today.
>hysterically crying and telling me things like, his father and I are not his real parents, that we are his foster parents and that his baby photos are fake or pictures of his sister that we are trying to pass off as him. Telling me he hates his stepmother. Telling me that easy child has ruined his life. Telling me that we don't spend enough time with him or do what he wants us to do. Telling me he will behave if other people stop irritating him.
> saying that he wants to die, saying that he wants someone to kill him
etc, etc, etc
All of the above happened in the span of two hours or less. Add in all the time calming him down, talking, hugging and I am worn out.
I was not able to get much video because during much of the meltdown difficult child was not wearing clothing. But I did capture some of it with him under his blanket. He says that it is embarrassing that I am taping him. He stopped the behaviors after about 5 minutes of video. He told me that he will purposely act calm if I try to videotape him again. I told him that was fine by me. A peaceful solution is all I am asking for and I would rather have peaceful videos of him anyway. Once he figured it out that I was not going to stop videotaping he calmed down. So far so good tonight but I am still conflicted about taping him. It seems so violating in a way. Am I totally messed up about this?
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