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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 376153" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If he doesnt' attach to you, and that includes serious therapy for it, he won't listen to you or want to please you. If he can't attach to ANYONE he could become a serious criminal when he is of age. You can't force him to listen to you when he doesn't care what you think. 99% of the kids in foster care were sexually abused. Is he a threat to do this to his brother? Does his brother have attachment issues too? Most kids adopted older do have them and it greatly affects their behavior toward everyone. </p><p>We had to disrupt our adoption of the 11 year old. He had sexually abused our two younger kids for years (and the kids were way too scared to tell us...we didn't find out until lmy daughter started having yeast infections). Attachment disordered kids can be very dangerous as they have no conscience. Please be careful and, trust me, many kids have rejected "love" long ago and don't believe in it or want it. They will USE your love for money or material items, but they think of you more as a sap than a parent. Our son who had to leave was taken to juvy hall for young sexual offenders and was diagnosed with "Severe Attachment Disorder." I think he may have had some fetal alcohol issues as well. He had no idea why he does the things he does and does not recall being sexually abused, although he obviously was.</p><p>Once he left we were so afraid he'd come back for revenge that we moved and unlisted our number. Of course, NOW he can find us on the internet, but so far he hasn't. He is twenty now and I wouldn't be shocked if I saw on the news that he killed somebody. He strangled our dog and, we suspect, a few cats. But the dog is a certainty because he made my terrified younger children watch him.</p><p>I'm not trying to be harsh. I just don't want others to be fooled like we were. Not all kids can be saved. Sad, but true.</p><p>Wisconsin doesn't let you disrupt an adoption either, but we did tell them, AND THEY AGREED, that this child can never live with us again. After a year they felt sorry for us and dissolved the adoption anyway. Before that, he had been charged with and found guilty of Sexual Assault of a Minor. He was only thirteen himself, but the kids were more than five years younger than him so he could be accused. The experience was extremely traumatic for all of us. We cut all ties.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 376153, member: 1550"] If he doesnt' attach to you, and that includes serious therapy for it, he won't listen to you or want to please you. If he can't attach to ANYONE he could become a serious criminal when he is of age. You can't force him to listen to you when he doesn't care what you think. 99% of the kids in foster care were sexually abused. Is he a threat to do this to his brother? Does his brother have attachment issues too? Most kids adopted older do have them and it greatly affects their behavior toward everyone. We had to disrupt our adoption of the 11 year old. He had sexually abused our two younger kids for years (and the kids were way too scared to tell us...we didn't find out until lmy daughter started having yeast infections). Attachment disordered kids can be very dangerous as they have no conscience. Please be careful and, trust me, many kids have rejected "love" long ago and don't believe in it or want it. They will USE your love for money or material items, but they think of you more as a sap than a parent. Our son who had to leave was taken to juvy hall for young sexual offenders and was diagnosed with "Severe Attachment Disorder." I think he may have had some fetal alcohol issues as well. He had no idea why he does the things he does and does not recall being sexually abused, although he obviously was. Once he left we were so afraid he'd come back for revenge that we moved and unlisted our number. Of course, NOW he can find us on the internet, but so far he hasn't. He is twenty now and I wouldn't be shocked if I saw on the news that he killed somebody. He strangled our dog and, we suspect, a few cats. But the dog is a certainty because he made my terrified younger children watch him. I'm not trying to be harsh. I just don't want others to be fooled like we were. Not all kids can be saved. Sad, but true. Wisconsin doesn't let you disrupt an adoption either, but we did tell them, AND THEY AGREED, that this child can never live with us again. After a year they felt sorry for us and dissolved the adoption anyway. Before that, he had been charged with and found guilty of Sexual Assault of a Minor. He was only thirteen himself, but the kids were more than five years younger than him so he could be accused. The experience was extremely traumatic for all of us. We cut all ties. [/QUOTE]
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