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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 376190" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Hi & welcome. I'm the mother of now 16 y/o severely attachment disordered twins (boy & girl) with complex PTSD & bipolar is thrown in just for giggles. We adopted the tweedles @ the age of 6 & the doggie doo hit the fan immediately.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Saying that, because we adopted out of foster care we made sure services were in place before we finalized (which made the state we adopted from very nervous & threatening but they never showed up to pick the tweedles up). </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Your son sounds like my son wm. He is now (& has been for almost 5 years now) in a therapeutic foster home because of his abuse toward us. It was a decision that brought my husband & I to our knees. If the state law doesn't recognize an adoption disruption (which I doubt) then said state may have to recognize threatening & dangerous choices your difficult child is making. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">For me to get help I climbed over every head in this state & the adoptive state. I took it to the head of the department of family & children protective services. I kid you not. I'm nothing if not tenacious. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Document every single behavior, everything that isn't acceptable in your home; in the community. That documentation gives you ammunition with the state departments you have to deal with. If it comes to hospitalization for safety call 911 & have him transported safely. I actually called CPS myself when things got to far out of hand. I asked for an investigation & welcomed it. The SWs eyes opened readily. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Do you have a psychiatrist you trust? Have you seen an adoption/attachment/trauma specialist? How far do you want to take this? I have to be honest that if I had known then what I know now I would not have cont'd with kt & wm. The cost is far too high ~ my children were hurt beyond reason.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Forgive me if I've been repetitive. It's not my intention. Post often ~ even if it's to let off steam. We're all in the same boat.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 376190, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Hi & welcome. I'm the mother of now 16 y/o severely attachment disordered twins (boy & girl) with complex PTSD & bipolar is thrown in just for giggles. We adopted the tweedles @ the age of 6 & the doggie doo hit the fan immediately. Saying that, because we adopted out of foster care we made sure services were in place before we finalized (which made the state we adopted from very nervous & threatening but they never showed up to pick the tweedles up). Your son sounds like my son wm. He is now (& has been for almost 5 years now) in a therapeutic foster home because of his abuse toward us. It was a decision that brought my husband & I to our knees. If the state law doesn't recognize an adoption disruption (which I doubt) then said state may have to recognize threatening & dangerous choices your difficult child is making. For me to get help I climbed over every head in this state & the adoptive state. I took it to the head of the department of family & children protective services. I kid you not. I'm nothing if not tenacious. Document every single behavior, everything that isn't acceptable in your home; in the community. That documentation gives you ammunition with the state departments you have to deal with. If it comes to hospitalization for safety call 911 & have him transported safely. I actually called CPS myself when things got to far out of hand. I asked for an investigation & welcomed it. The SWs eyes opened readily. Do you have a psychiatrist you trust? Have you seen an adoption/attachment/trauma specialist? How far do you want to take this? I have to be honest that if I had known then what I know now I would not have cont'd with kt & wm. The cost is far too high ~ my children were hurt beyond reason. Forgive me if I've been repetitive. It's not my intention. Post often ~ even if it's to let off steam. We're all in the same boat. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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