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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 611572" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Question: Why even let him come back? You know he is going to get dangerous if you don't allow the electronics. What is the purpose of NOT letting him use electronics? To get him to do his chores? He still won't. To punish him for NOT doing them? It won't work and will likely blow up in your face. I offer two solutions:</p><p></p><p>1. Let him play on the laptap for as long as he wants and ask NOTHING of him so that he doesn't go for the knives and possibly hurt you two or himself or all of you. Not using his laptop isn't going to help him at this point in time. He is very far gone and needs more help than any of you can give him and normal types of discipline will only enrage him so that he will act out. And you know it! Thought: What if he gets so mad he sets the house on fire? I know of a child similar to him who did just that. He didn't like what his foster parents said so he burned down their house. Yes, I feel this child is capable of that so I would not attempt to oppose him if he were under my roof. You can't win with this child. He is too disturbed.</p><p></p><p>2. Don't let him come at all because nothing has changed that is going to make him suddenly able to comply. He is in desperate need in my opinion of a residential treatment center and is not safe in a family setting. Why even give him another chance to destroy your house, hurt you or who knows what else?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 611572, member: 1550"] Question: Why even let him come back? You know he is going to get dangerous if you don't allow the electronics. What is the purpose of NOT letting him use electronics? To get him to do his chores? He still won't. To punish him for NOT doing them? It won't work and will likely blow up in your face. I offer two solutions: 1. Let him play on the laptap for as long as he wants and ask NOTHING of him so that he doesn't go for the knives and possibly hurt you two or himself or all of you. Not using his laptop isn't going to help him at this point in time. He is very far gone and needs more help than any of you can give him and normal types of discipline will only enrage him so that he will act out. And you know it! Thought: What if he gets so mad he sets the house on fire? I know of a child similar to him who did just that. He didn't like what his foster parents said so he burned down their house. Yes, I feel this child is capable of that so I would not attempt to oppose him if he were under my roof. You can't win with this child. He is too disturbed. 2. Don't let him come at all because nothing has changed that is going to make him suddenly able to comply. He is in desperate need in my opinion of a residential treatment center and is not safe in a family setting. Why even give him another chance to destroy your house, hurt you or who knows what else? [/QUOTE]
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