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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 611607" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>Midwest Mom, I don't want him to come back here. And husband said he didn't want him to either, but then he starts feeling guilty about it and says, "well maybe he will be okay when we have him so we will take him and see what happens." I don't think husband really believes that, but like I said, it's a guilt thing. I think the only way husband will ever stick to keeping SS out of our home is if he does something really bad, but that to me is a very high price to pay, and I am scared! Bio mom says his behavior has been better this week, but I know it's because he has his laptop back and is staying on it constantly. She just hasn't tried to take it away from him yet. Another problem that we are having is my sister-in-law. She keeps telling husband that maybe we should take custody of SS, that maybe he would do better with us. And I get so angry every time she says it because she hasn't a clue how bad this child is even though we have told her repeatedly! She just thinks he is spoiled and just a little tough love will fix everything. SS is too far gone for a little tough love. And she doesn't even take into consideration how I feel about it and that really makes me angry. I live in my home too, and I have every right to be comfortable and feel safe in my own home, and I would not feel that way if SS lived her. husband has told SS, and the bio mom, that if he acts violently again he will have to go to residential treatment, foster care, or juvie. So bio mom knows we will not take him. He told bio mom that SS too far gone, and we are too old to deal with this. We both have health issues. husband may have to have his aortic valve in his heart replaced. So no way will I consider taking SS into our home and raising him. I just worry that every time my sister-in-law says this stuff about taking custody to my husband, that she is working on his guilt and he will cave in and consider it. I wish she would mind her own business. I totally agree with you that he is going to act out, and act out badly and that it is not a matter of if, but when. All of this is making me a nervous wreck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 611607, member: 17051"] Midwest Mom, I don't want him to come back here. And husband said he didn't want him to either, but then he starts feeling guilty about it and says, "well maybe he will be okay when we have him so we will take him and see what happens." I don't think husband really believes that, but like I said, it's a guilt thing. I think the only way husband will ever stick to keeping SS out of our home is if he does something really bad, but that to me is a very high price to pay, and I am scared! Bio mom says his behavior has been better this week, but I know it's because he has his laptop back and is staying on it constantly. She just hasn't tried to take it away from him yet. Another problem that we are having is my sister-in-law. She keeps telling husband that maybe we should take custody of SS, that maybe he would do better with us. And I get so angry every time she says it because she hasn't a clue how bad this child is even though we have told her repeatedly! She just thinks he is spoiled and just a little tough love will fix everything. SS is too far gone for a little tough love. And she doesn't even take into consideration how I feel about it and that really makes me angry. I live in my home too, and I have every right to be comfortable and feel safe in my own home, and I would not feel that way if SS lived her. husband has told SS, and the bio mom, that if he acts violently again he will have to go to residential treatment, foster care, or juvie. So bio mom knows we will not take him. He told bio mom that SS too far gone, and we are too old to deal with this. We both have health issues. husband may have to have his aortic valve in his heart replaced. So no way will I consider taking SS into our home and raising him. I just worry that every time my sister-in-law says this stuff about taking custody to my husband, that she is working on his guilt and he will cave in and consider it. I wish she would mind her own business. I totally agree with you that he is going to act out, and act out badly and that it is not a matter of if, but when. All of this is making me a nervous wreck. [/QUOTE]
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