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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 611643" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>IC has a GREAT idea. Let his sister take in SS and make sure...no laptop!!</p><p></p><p>It is sad that somebody will have to get hurt before the family will admit there is a SERIOUS problem with SS and that he's not safe at home. Since even the worst difficult child's cycle and can have "good" days/weeks/even some months (at least in difficult child terms) there is always the hope that things will forever get better. In some cases, they can! But this particular child is so incredibly damaged. I am assuming, at least to myself...lol (wink), that he is attachment disordered. His behavior is, in all seriousness, very frightening and I forgot if you have other kids or pets, but I sure hope you don't. If so, send husband out for the weekend to be with SS or send the other kids and pets to another relative to hide out until this kid is gone. </p><p></p><p>There is no little band-aid for a child doing as potentially harmful things as your SS and you have my deepest sympathy. You have tried to give a lot of love to a child not born to you and I commend you for it. But you are also the only one seeing him straight, probably because Dad feels he contributed to his son's makeup (and maybe, if he has attachment issues, he did, but that doesn't mean he can fix his son now). And, frankly, he didn't know at the time that his son was going to be so damaged. Not all kids with chaotic beginnings develop these severe problems, but this child was obviously vulnerable and did and the blame game is pointless now.</p><p></p><p>The real point is to keep all of you safe, including yourself, sweetie. Make sure you stay out of the line of fire. I would not contribute to the disciplining of this child as he is not your average child and he may come at you with a weapon. Let him have his laptop or let your husband be the one to remove it. Not having electronics can help certain kids or motivate them on to better behavior, but I'm afraid that with this particular child it will just make him a bigger risk to those around him. He is not going to do what is told of him just because you remove his favorite "toys" from him. More likely, he will throw a God awful fit from hello that you don't need to be a part of. Plan a nice day out with friends or your own family or your other kids, and don't forget to take your pets with because he could hurt them too. Let your husband deal with this child. And keep yourself and your other loved ones safe. I hope your husband realizes he married a gem. Big hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 611643, member: 1550"] IC has a GREAT idea. Let his sister take in SS and make sure...no laptop!! It is sad that somebody will have to get hurt before the family will admit there is a SERIOUS problem with SS and that he's not safe at home. Since even the worst difficult child's cycle and can have "good" days/weeks/even some months (at least in difficult child terms) there is always the hope that things will forever get better. In some cases, they can! But this particular child is so incredibly damaged. I am assuming, at least to myself...lol (wink), that he is attachment disordered. His behavior is, in all seriousness, very frightening and I forgot if you have other kids or pets, but I sure hope you don't. If so, send husband out for the weekend to be with SS or send the other kids and pets to another relative to hide out until this kid is gone. There is no little band-aid for a child doing as potentially harmful things as your SS and you have my deepest sympathy. You have tried to give a lot of love to a child not born to you and I commend you for it. But you are also the only one seeing him straight, probably because Dad feels he contributed to his son's makeup (and maybe, if he has attachment issues, he did, but that doesn't mean he can fix his son now). And, frankly, he didn't know at the time that his son was going to be so damaged. Not all kids with chaotic beginnings develop these severe problems, but this child was obviously vulnerable and did and the blame game is pointless now. The real point is to keep all of you safe, including yourself, sweetie. Make sure you stay out of the line of fire. I would not contribute to the disciplining of this child as he is not your average child and he may come at you with a weapon. Let him have his laptop or let your husband be the one to remove it. Not having electronics can help certain kids or motivate them on to better behavior, but I'm afraid that with this particular child it will just make him a bigger risk to those around him. He is not going to do what is told of him just because you remove his favorite "toys" from him. More likely, he will throw a God awful fit from hello that you don't need to be a part of. Plan a nice day out with friends or your own family or your other kids, and don't forget to take your pets with because he could hurt them too. Let your husband deal with this child. And keep yourself and your other loved ones safe. I hope your husband realizes he married a gem. Big hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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