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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 143691" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>(flicks flashlight on, flicks it off, flicks it on, flicks it off) - I never want anyone I know to think there is no light at the end of the tunnel. </p><p></p><p>I've been where you are, (oh right I'm there again with Dude maybe going in for 15 years) and I know how you feel. On one hand when Dude went to Department of Juvenile Justice I thought well if THIS place doesn't teach him a lesson nothing will, and then I would think about all the stuff he would learn IN Department of Juvenile Justice - figuring he would come out THUG supreme. IT was ghastly. </p><p></p><p>The good thing out of all of this - IS ---while he would NEVER admit it to me - or anyone else, he DOES now have a better respect of rules and people in authority. Not to say that he is better, but at least he came out of Department of Juvenile Justice better able to hold his tongue with authority figures knowing it CAN get much worse. </p><p></p><p>THe sick joke is that we know our kids need help - not jail. Yet despite all our IEPS and the IDEA laws, 504, and so on = in the real world there is no separate set of rules for them. That's what I think stinks. I mean if they could BEHAVE like 'norm' then norm rules apply , but if they can't - someone should come up with an IBP (individual behavior plan) for OUR kids for jail..or the avoidance of it. </p><p></p><p>Your school is trying to teach your son a lesson BECAUSE they don't understand or won't believe that he has a mental disorder. If they had a kid like ours - I often wonder if they would be more willing to treat him like he has the disability he has. Not like a normal kid that is just behaving badly.....and needs punishment to correct the behavior. </p><p></p><p>If we knew what corrected their behaviors and made them normal doesn't anyone THINK as their parents who HAVE to live with them and endure their behaviors would DO just that? ARGH. </p><p></p><p>You have my biggest hugs tonight - </p><p>Wish I had an answer for you - but I just have words to send some comfort in knowing what you're going through. </p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 143691, member: 4964"] (flicks flashlight on, flicks it off, flicks it on, flicks it off) - I never want anyone I know to think there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I've been where you are, (oh right I'm there again with Dude maybe going in for 15 years) and I know how you feel. On one hand when Dude went to Department of Juvenile Justice I thought well if THIS place doesn't teach him a lesson nothing will, and then I would think about all the stuff he would learn IN Department of Juvenile Justice - figuring he would come out THUG supreme. IT was ghastly. The good thing out of all of this - IS ---while he would NEVER admit it to me - or anyone else, he DOES now have a better respect of rules and people in authority. Not to say that he is better, but at least he came out of Department of Juvenile Justice better able to hold his tongue with authority figures knowing it CAN get much worse. THe sick joke is that we know our kids need help - not jail. Yet despite all our IEPS and the IDEA laws, 504, and so on = in the real world there is no separate set of rules for them. That's what I think stinks. I mean if they could BEHAVE like 'norm' then norm rules apply , but if they can't - someone should come up with an IBP (individual behavior plan) for OUR kids for jail..or the avoidance of it. Your school is trying to teach your son a lesson BECAUSE they don't understand or won't believe that he has a mental disorder. If they had a kid like ours - I often wonder if they would be more willing to treat him like he has the disability he has. Not like a normal kid that is just behaving badly.....and needs punishment to correct the behavior. If we knew what corrected their behaviors and made them normal doesn't anyone THINK as their parents who HAVE to live with them and endure their behaviors would DO just that? ARGH. You have my biggest hugs tonight - Wish I had an answer for you - but I just have words to send some comfort in knowing what you're going through. Star [/QUOTE]
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