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<blockquote data-quote="Dollhouse" data-source="post: 254430"><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Hi Nomad --</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">I think my son wanted the laptop, just for self-soothing. He loves to create new music (quite good too) and I think his understanding (in his irrational mind) would be that he could be at the hospital by using his laptop for comfort.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">We (my mom, sister and myself) did go pick him up. We made him wait a looong time before we went. We pretty much had a family intervention in the car. We all laid it out to him in a loving manner and he listened. I'm not being unrealistic; thinking all is well, but at least he was receptive to what we had to say. He gets along well with his grandmother and aunt and tends to listen to them, as I am too close to the situation. He still had some irrational thoughts; but we were able rationalize just WHY he still needs to seek therapy continuously to be able to earn his privlidges back, feel better and LIVE LIFE to the best of his ability. </span></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">He was honest in saying that he is quite annoyed at me and that he wishes I would learn to communicate with him better. One thing I learned, is that it is also important to listen to how the individual who is ill is feeling. We let him speak and didn't judge; but also counter-acted with rational examples when he was not on point.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">He will be staying at a friend's for the day and staying with my mom this evening. My husband is going out of town on business tomorrow afternoon until Tuesday, so we hope that him being with my mom for a few days will help calm the chaos in the house that happened today.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">He will be going with me on Monday to a center for a full assessment; I made it clear that it has to be done. While he did call another center on his own on Thursday, which is in our town -- they don't have appointments for another 2-3 weeks for an assesement. I told him (and my sister and mom also reiterated to him) that it would be in his best interest to go to the place where I made the appointment first to get started. When his place calls, he can then transition over. The place I made the appointment at is 40mins away and really wouldn't be doable to travel to for outpatient therapy on a regular basis. The place my son called is only 7mins away.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Sorry for the long post -- as my husband just said to me, we have accomplished a lot in a short few days. I hope it drives the point home to him that we will NOT tolerate this behavior anymore. I even told him, I won't do it -- it's destructive, disruptive and it can't happen like this anymore. We told him that we love him, we told him all the positives he had in his life, and we said we care. I told him that even though I called the police, I did it because I LOVE him -- he may not see that now, but it was out of love and care for him so that he can get help and move on with his life.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Will it happen?? Only time will tell....He may act out again at some point...But at least I can try. And I won't be scared again to make a move. While painful; I feel strong that I finally did something; even though unpleasant.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Best,</span></p><p><span style="color: darkslateblue">Doll</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dollhouse, post: 254430"] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Hi Nomad --[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]I think my son wanted the laptop, just for self-soothing. He loves to create new music (quite good too) and I think his understanding (in his irrational mind) would be that he could be at the hospital by using his laptop for comfort.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]We (my mom, sister and myself) did go pick him up. We made him wait a looong time before we went. We pretty much had a family intervention in the car. We all laid it out to him in a loving manner and he listened. I'm not being unrealistic; thinking all is well, but at least he was receptive to what we had to say. He gets along well with his grandmother and aunt and tends to listen to them, as I am too close to the situation. He still had some irrational thoughts; but we were able rationalize just WHY he still needs to seek therapy continuously to be able to earn his privlidges back, feel better and LIVE LIFE to the best of his ability. [/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]He was honest in saying that he is quite annoyed at me and that he wishes I would learn to communicate with him better. One thing I learned, is that it is also important to listen to how the individual who is ill is feeling. We let him speak and didn't judge; but also counter-acted with rational examples when he was not on point.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]He will be staying at a friend's for the day and staying with my mom this evening. My husband is going out of town on business tomorrow afternoon until Tuesday, so we hope that him being with my mom for a few days will help calm the chaos in the house that happened today.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]He will be going with me on Monday to a center for a full assessment; I made it clear that it has to be done. While he did call another center on his own on Thursday, which is in our town -- they don't have appointments for another 2-3 weeks for an assesement. I told him (and my sister and mom also reiterated to him) that it would be in his best interest to go to the place where I made the appointment first to get started. When his place calls, he can then transition over. The place I made the appointment at is 40mins away and really wouldn't be doable to travel to for outpatient therapy on a regular basis. The place my son called is only 7mins away.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Sorry for the long post -- as my husband just said to me, we have accomplished a lot in a short few days. I hope it drives the point home to him that we will NOT tolerate this behavior anymore. I even told him, I won't do it -- it's destructive, disruptive and it can't happen like this anymore. We told him that we love him, we told him all the positives he had in his life, and we said we care. I told him that even though I called the police, I did it because I LOVE him -- he may not see that now, but it was out of love and care for him so that he can get help and move on with his life.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Will it happen?? Only time will tell....He may act out again at some point...But at least I can try. And I won't be scared again to make a move. While painful; I feel strong that I finally did something; even though unpleasant.[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Best,[/COLOR] [COLOR=darkslateblue]Doll[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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