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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 170056" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>Thanks Witzend, I'm praying it will be too.</p><p></p><p>klmno - yes, it's the 12 y.o. and the 8 y.o. They were in the pool, I was inside sitting at the window watching them. difficult child apparently threatened difficult child and then pulled her shorts out and touched her (in the front). It looked to me like they were just talking but I saw easy child pull away and then difficult child had this odd look on his face when he saw me looking out the window, so I went out to see what was going on. easy child immediately told me what happened. I told difficult child's counselor, who told me she had to report it since it was "skin to skin" and because of the age difference. We're pretty sure this was the first time because we very closely supervise difficult child around easy child because he threatens her and hits her. (I know it's very possible it has happened before, but everything is leaning towards this being the first time)</p><p></p><p>The sex abuse counselor won't talk to difficult child or easy child about it until the investigation is over, because apparently they can be accused of influencing what they say to the investigators. DHS/DCFS has 30 days to finish their investigation. They send the report to the sheriff's office, who can choose to investigate on their own and possibly press charges. (Although I'm not sure, I think the person we're talking to on Monday is with the Sheriff's Office.) A report is also sent to our town's police department, and they can choose to investigate on their own. The state police investigator told me not to "freak out" if our town police dept. comes calling, because they "like to do things on their own." I don't think there's any time frame for the sheriff dept. or the police, so we just get to worry every time a police car drives by that they are going to stop and try to make my daughter talk about it again, which she has so far refused to do with anyone but me and I know it upsets her. The DHS worker told us everything seemed in order and if we stick to the safety plan, she doesn't see any need to go further. She did remind us, though, that the sheriff and police were different and either or both could decide to charge difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Once the DHS investigation is over, we can get them both into counseling. We have a safety plan in place to protect our daughter and to make sure difficult child isn't placed in a situation where there is an opportunity for him to do this again. So right now, everything just seems like it's in limbo and I really just want to get them both in counseling to make sure my daughter's OK and to make sure difficult child's issues are addressed so he doesn't feel the need to do anything like this again.</p><p></p><p>difficult child wouldn't talk to his counselor (she tried talking to him before she reported it to see if we could find out any details we didn't have). I'm pretty sure he will talk to his counselor now, but I'm really not sure how deep he will go with it.</p><p></p><p>I guess that's it in a nutshell.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 170056, member: 45"] Thanks Witzend, I'm praying it will be too. klmno - yes, it's the 12 y.o. and the 8 y.o. They were in the pool, I was inside sitting at the window watching them. difficult child apparently threatened difficult child and then pulled her shorts out and touched her (in the front). It looked to me like they were just talking but I saw easy child pull away and then difficult child had this odd look on his face when he saw me looking out the window, so I went out to see what was going on. easy child immediately told me what happened. I told difficult child's counselor, who told me she had to report it since it was "skin to skin" and because of the age difference. We're pretty sure this was the first time because we very closely supervise difficult child around easy child because he threatens her and hits her. (I know it's very possible it has happened before, but everything is leaning towards this being the first time) The sex abuse counselor won't talk to difficult child or easy child about it until the investigation is over, because apparently they can be accused of influencing what they say to the investigators. DHS/DCFS has 30 days to finish their investigation. They send the report to the sheriff's office, who can choose to investigate on their own and possibly press charges. (Although I'm not sure, I think the person we're talking to on Monday is with the Sheriff's Office.) A report is also sent to our town's police department, and they can choose to investigate on their own. The state police investigator told me not to "freak out" if our town police dept. comes calling, because they "like to do things on their own." I don't think there's any time frame for the sheriff dept. or the police, so we just get to worry every time a police car drives by that they are going to stop and try to make my daughter talk about it again, which she has so far refused to do with anyone but me and I know it upsets her. The DHS worker told us everything seemed in order and if we stick to the safety plan, she doesn't see any need to go further. She did remind us, though, that the sheriff and police were different and either or both could decide to charge difficult child. Once the DHS investigation is over, we can get them both into counseling. We have a safety plan in place to protect our daughter and to make sure difficult child isn't placed in a situation where there is an opportunity for him to do this again. So right now, everything just seems like it's in limbo and I really just want to get them both in counseling to make sure my daughter's OK and to make sure difficult child's issues are addressed so he doesn't feel the need to do anything like this again. difficult child wouldn't talk to his counselor (she tried talking to him before she reported it to see if we could find out any details we didn't have). I'm pretty sure he will talk to his counselor now, but I'm really not sure how deep he will go with it. I guess that's it in a nutshell. [/QUOTE]
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