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<blockquote data-quote="Dixies_fire" data-source="post: 600739" data-attributes="member: 16184"><p>Also I talked to ex this evening finally he had to wait till he got off work to pay his bill and its back on again. </p><p></p><p>We had words over the clothes he has bought so far for her he packed three of them and they were all black, black and white black and pink but mostly black. I told him point blank period trying to turn our pink princess into a goth at age 8 was not acceptable and she also has trouble making friends making people think she is weird or a rebel is not okay at all because she has a hard enough time, as is.</p><p></p><p>We also talked about her bathing suit which is only really a two piece technically not in any true since of the word, it shows her belly button and that is about it, truly she couldn't get more</p><p>Covered if she was wearing shorts and a shirt to swim in. He admitted he was being a little over board on both counts and would take clothes colors into consideration. He also mentioned wanting to stear her away from all the pink because she is getting older but if left to her own devices would dress in pink frilly smaller kid clothes every day. I told him that was fine but no more exclusive black items.</p><p></p><p>And as for hubs and fishing. I'm cool with it as long as I know about it before hand we haven't made plans and that is really where he is going. I worry about him sneaking off to drink that hasn't happened yet but I absolutely can not be around him if he starts drinking again and also because of my previous marriage I need complete transparency in our marriage. I don't honestly think I would survive being cheated on again not in any healthy way anyway, I'd keep breathing for my children but that is about the extent I could promise. Not that it even slightly has come up again it hasn't, but I am not the same "talk to whoever whenever you want and I will mind my business" kind of wife that I was.</p><p></p><p>But he is my only adult interaction just like you. And half the time at least about decisions made around here he isn't an adult, so it does get lonely. I am a holiday nazi partly because I was raised with big holidays partly because ex and I never celebrated any holidays very much except Christmas and Halloween, we never had any fun and I want that in my life and the kids lives they deserve that it's not really up for discussion. I also feel and maybe I am wrong for this or maybe it's too much pressure or whatever when we promise my children things we deliver together, he isn't allowed to just be my husband and not be their step dad or only be mr.lewis's dad we are a package deal. He should be allowed friends and to get away from the house and kids, ideally I should too and he used to stay home with the kids and let me go out with my girlfriends from work I just don't have friends here. Not eager to make any as we could leave any day. </p><p></p><p>So I guess everything is okay, and I will be dropping the kids off tomorrow.</p><p>Boyo will be coming back at the end of the month but tk will be staying unless I push together another visit before school starts on August 9th. My heart is breaking a little bit. Maybe a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dixies_fire, post: 600739, member: 16184"] Also I talked to ex this evening finally he had to wait till he got off work to pay his bill and its back on again. We had words over the clothes he has bought so far for her he packed three of them and they were all black, black and white black and pink but mostly black. I told him point blank period trying to turn our pink princess into a goth at age 8 was not acceptable and she also has trouble making friends making people think she is weird or a rebel is not okay at all because she has a hard enough time, as is. We also talked about her bathing suit which is only really a two piece technically not in any true since of the word, it shows her belly button and that is about it, truly she couldn't get more Covered if she was wearing shorts and a shirt to swim in. He admitted he was being a little over board on both counts and would take clothes colors into consideration. He also mentioned wanting to stear her away from all the pink because she is getting older but if left to her own devices would dress in pink frilly smaller kid clothes every day. I told him that was fine but no more exclusive black items. And as for hubs and fishing. I'm cool with it as long as I know about it before hand we haven't made plans and that is really where he is going. I worry about him sneaking off to drink that hasn't happened yet but I absolutely can not be around him if he starts drinking again and also because of my previous marriage I need complete transparency in our marriage. I don't honestly think I would survive being cheated on again not in any healthy way anyway, I'd keep breathing for my children but that is about the extent I could promise. Not that it even slightly has come up again it hasn't, but I am not the same "talk to whoever whenever you want and I will mind my business" kind of wife that I was. But he is my only adult interaction just like you. And half the time at least about decisions made around here he isn't an adult, so it does get lonely. I am a holiday nazi partly because I was raised with big holidays partly because ex and I never celebrated any holidays very much except Christmas and Halloween, we never had any fun and I want that in my life and the kids lives they deserve that it's not really up for discussion. I also feel and maybe I am wrong for this or maybe it's too much pressure or whatever when we promise my children things we deliver together, he isn't allowed to just be my husband and not be their step dad or only be mr.lewis's dad we are a package deal. He should be allowed friends and to get away from the house and kids, ideally I should too and he used to stay home with the kids and let me go out with my girlfriends from work I just don't have friends here. Not eager to make any as we could leave any day. So I guess everything is okay, and I will be dropping the kids off tomorrow. Boyo will be coming back at the end of the month but tk will be staying unless I push together another visit before school starts on August 9th. My heart is breaking a little bit. Maybe a lot. [/QUOTE]
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