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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 501654" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We had this situation and there was no way we were ever going to allow Molester back in the house. First of all, your child can do it again and she can also do it to kids in the neighborhood. Molested girls are prone to making sexual abuse allegations too which could get your husband in hot water...CPS takes any molestation charge very seriously. After the child that we adopted confessed to molesting our younger kids, he never came back. We dissolved the adoption for the sake of our two little ones. We did not want them to see us supporting their tormentor (and he did torment them). They are doing well, but I am not at all sure they would be if we had kept R. in our family. They needed to know that they never ever had to see him again.</p><p></p><p>My advice is to make sure she is never with your family again. The other issues are unimportant. You have to keep your babies safe. I have learned the hard way that we can't save all kids. By the time we get some of them, they are too far gone. It may be ok to try to keep helping them, against the odds, if there are no other children in the house and if you can keep the child at home most of the time so that the child can not offend on other kids (which would get YOU in big trouble as well as her), but that's not the case in your house. My strong suggestion: Never let her back. by the way we adopted that child at age 11. I'm convinced that if you have any other kids, the social workers should WARN adoptive couples that most of these older foster kids have been sexually abused and have a good chance of acting out on the younger kids. Of course, they never do that...we found out that over 90% of older foster children have been seuxally abused, but only AFTER the damage had been done. Thanks a lot, Social Worker!!!!</p><p></p><p>((((Bug hugs))))) I know exactly how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 501654, member: 1550"] We had this situation and there was no way we were ever going to allow Molester back in the house. First of all, your child can do it again and she can also do it to kids in the neighborhood. Molested girls are prone to making sexual abuse allegations too which could get your husband in hot water...CPS takes any molestation charge very seriously. After the child that we adopted confessed to molesting our younger kids, he never came back. We dissolved the adoption for the sake of our two little ones. We did not want them to see us supporting their tormentor (and he did torment them). They are doing well, but I am not at all sure they would be if we had kept R. in our family. They needed to know that they never ever had to see him again. My advice is to make sure she is never with your family again. The other issues are unimportant. You have to keep your babies safe. I have learned the hard way that we can't save all kids. By the time we get some of them, they are too far gone. It may be ok to try to keep helping them, against the odds, if there are no other children in the house and if you can keep the child at home most of the time so that the child can not offend on other kids (which would get YOU in big trouble as well as her), but that's not the case in your house. My strong suggestion: Never let her back. by the way we adopted that child at age 11. I'm convinced that if you have any other kids, the social workers should WARN adoptive couples that most of these older foster kids have been sexually abused and have a good chance of acting out on the younger kids. Of course, they never do that...we found out that over 90% of older foster children have been seuxally abused, but only AFTER the damage had been done. Thanks a lot, Social Worker!!!! ((((Bug hugs))))) I know exactly how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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